Acceptance?

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Acceptance?
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Sat, 03-20-2010 - 12:53am
Spent time with the family today at a cook-out. Held my husband's niece's baby (the one that was due the same day as Jimmy) 2 or 3 times for 20 mins at a time. My husband held her too and we played with her, sang to her, had a good time.
I didn't feel the need to cry when we got home, didn't feel upset or angry or jealous.
Actually felt kind of relieved that I didn't have to spend my evening changing diapers or fixing bottles or anything....not that I wouldn't love to have a baby, but I was actually happy with my own life and going home to have "me" time and stuff. I guess the best way to put it is, I wasn't feeling jealous of her, I was perfectly content to go home to my house and look at the bright side of life without a baby right now. There are some freedoms I get to enjoy that you can't with a baby.
I feel pretty ok right now and thats a good feeling. I don't feel this desperate need to have a baby right this very second, which is odd because up until just a few days ago I was crying and sad about not being preggers.
Going to try to enjoy this happy feeling while it lasts. Can anyone else relate?

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In reply to: ladykate1980
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 8:03pm

i can totally relate!! every word i could have said myself!!


and as for the part you saying.. live it up while it last.... i tell you.. please take full advantage of your comfortable feelings!!!! cuz u never know when the bombs going to hit again.!!


thats why when i say to people.. im havign a great day.. meaning what u said in your post.. and people look at me like... ok? whatever? and inside im thinking.. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT IS LIKE TO HAVE A GOOD DAY... AFTER BEING IN A BIG BIG BIG BIG HOLE!!


MAKE SENSE!


congradulations on this huge step for you.. your moving forward in a good direction


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In reply to: ladykate1980
Sun, 03-21-2010 - 10:22am

Yes. I can (waves hand). And its perfectly normal. And its healthy to focus on the good things that we have in our lives also.


If I dont end up concieving `In 3 years I wont need carseats in the van. That will be

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


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Registered: 02-08-2010
In reply to: ladykate1980
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:07pm

I definitely think that is a step in the right direction and I've gone through periods of feeling the same way.

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Registered: 12-03-2009
In reply to: ladykate1980
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 10:40pm
Thank you, Nola. That actually makes me feel really good. Pretty much what my counselor told me tonight except you said it much better.

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