Hurt and unsupported

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Hurt and unsupported
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 1:51am
With a heavy heart I am joining you ladies. My precious Nathan was born still on 12-14-10. I was 26 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I have a hole in my heart that I can literally feel. No one around me understands what I'm going through. Neither my family or my husbands family will talk about Nathan. They act like nothing happened. It makes me so mad that I don't even want to be around them. It's been 5 weeks but it's just as hard as the moment I found out. My heart hurts to it's core. I just want my baby back.
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 11:08am

I am so sorry to hear about your precious baby Nathan.

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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 2:20pm

I'm so very sorry about the loss of your baby Nathan, sending you lots of (((HUGS))).

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Registered: 06-30-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 6:43pm

I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby. I wish somehow it could be made better. I to am going through what you are only separated by a few months. I know exactly how you feel. It totaly sucks and nobody seems to get it. everyone else's life goes on just how it was, except for you. Yours will never be the same. All I want is just the acknowledgement that he was here. It seems the farther away it gets, the more it seems like a dream. except for the HUGE void that constantly reminds it wasn't. I'm so sorry that you lost your precious Nathan. He must have been extra special for Jesus to want him so soon in heaven.

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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 8:12pm
Julie, saying "He must have been extra special for Jesus to want him so soon in Heaven" means a lot. Thank you for saying that. :) I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm here for you as well if you want an ear.

Sarah
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Registered: 01-21-2011
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 3:50am
Thank you. Talk to me any time. I'm here for you too.

Sarah
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Registered: 06-30-2009
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 5:22pm

Sarah, You are so welcome. I know Your Nathan must have been a special boy, because that's how my Cade was. I think sometimes God decides to keep some of the good ones simply because they were too good for this world.

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Registered: 03-25-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 2:15pm

I am so sorry to hear about your sweet Nathan. It has been 10 months since we have said our goodbyes to our sweet little girl Elana. We still have no real answers on why it happened. She was our first and I know all the pain that you are going through. I have to say that I still have my daily battles on this emotional roller coaster of grieve, but it does get better as time passes. Your heart will always be broken, but as time goes by your heart will start to mend. We still have not gotten our bfp and have really taken a break for awhile. I know I wouldn't have made it through everything without the support of the woman here and I hope you will feel the same support and comfort in knowing that you are not alone!! Also it has helped a lot to seek out other support systems. I know with my husband it was really hard for him at first to talk about it, and at times I felt the exact same way, but once I told him how he was making me feel he started to open up. I think men deal with the loss of a child so differently than we do. I think they don't want to bring it up because they are afraid to hurt us even more, but they don't realize that silence is even more painful. So I would suggest maybe talking to him and see what he has to say. (((hugs to you))) I know how hard it is right after the loss and how emotions can be so overwhelming!!! Please let me know if I can do anything for you! I am always available to talk!

Carissa

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Tue, 01-25-2011 - 12:15pm
(((Hugs))) so sorry for your loss... I went through the sane thing, noone was supportive or would let me talk about Kylee, I even got called stupid for crying a week later. Today my princess would be 10 months old and the pain is still real and that void feeling is still there, its just a lil bit easier to handle. But something that helped me a lot was going to a grief counselor , I could vent and cry and talk about my princess over and over and over without anyone judging you or making u feel dumb for repeating the same story. I also read this book. That I can't remember the name right now grr....I ll find it in a bit ( feel a lil nauseous today ) but I also started a journal where I wrote letters to my daughter as though she was alive just in a dif state or something, telling her how things were going and how much I miss her or tell her story about being pregnant. Id cry but it was soothing too...<3

~Sabrina~Loving Mommy to Osiris & Our Angel Kylee~