jealouse feelings that i need to let

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jealouse feelings that i need to let
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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 12:17am

gooooooooooooooooooooooooo


well.... i have been having some sort of a concern... its a concern i have always had.. just lately it is

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Registered: 08-27-2007
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 9:03am

Oh Jen sweetie I am right there with you. I have been feeling the same way all week. I am so envious of those who have babies and who have healthy kids. I know its not "socially acceptable" to feel that way. But know what...I do feel that way and I think thats okay.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 10:40am

i feel for you also.... i too have a very sick child. he misses school. he has headaches, aches, dizzyness.


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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 12:38pm

Jen, you are not alone in your feelings.

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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 2:55pm

i always took healthy kids.. and living kids for that matter... for granted.


Me too. No longer. I have said this on a couple of boards this week myself. I envy those who havent steeping into our shoes.


Hugs.


I'm sorry about your son.


Its hard when you cant put your finger on whats making them ill.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 4:48pm

i liked what you said... im not a horrible person... just a mother that lost

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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 2:35am

Ok, so I am just going to jump right on in here and join everyone else who feels like a horrible person for the way we feel. I've been struggling with this one for a week.


Ok, so my niece who is 23 already has 2 children who are 12 months a 2 days apart in age. Her and her husband have never lived on their own. They are always living off of someone else and usually these places are places that I wouldn't keep my dog in. There oldest started staying with us alot when he was 6 months old we started providing most of his clothing, diapers, foods, medicine everything. He is 3 now. His sister is 2 and when she came along also needed GROWN UPS that could take care of her also. We have begged and pleaded with both of them to just give them to us. Neither one of them works and they aren't even responsible enough to keep the babies medicaid and keep there food stamps because they miss the appointments. Just extremely irresponsible kids!! So here my niece already has 2 kids before I even have one. So finally after miscarriage 5 years earlier we got pregnant. 5 years of TTC. Then we lose our precious Cooper after a 2 month rollercoaster ride in the NICU. And they STILL don't try to take care of their kids. Don't get me wrong I love these babies to death and would take them at anytime! Well I guess I'll get back to the point DH and I have been TTC this time since October 2008 and discovering I don't ovulate right and now onto the Clomid and just nothing seems like it is ever going to work. And what do I find out last week. My niece who can't even take care of the 2 babies she already has is pregnant again!!


I'm sure that you all know how I feel so I am going to leave it at that. And just say that life sure isn't fair.


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Registered: 12-03-2009
Mon, 03-15-2010 - 8:38am
There is a lady I know that was in a very, very, very similar situation. Her and her husband were unable to have any children of their own and they tried everything. She had a sister who had 4 kids and their parents did not take care of them hardly at all so her and her husband practically raised those children....the parents would not give them up, but they were there all the time and helped them with everything from homework to first crushes to learning how to drive, etc.
After the kids were grown and came back to visit, they finally realized the reason they didn't get any babies of their own....those children needed them so badly and if they would have had babies of their own, they wouldn't have needed those kids so badly....
God was watching out for all of them.
I hope you are able to have another baby, with all my heart I hope you do! In the meantime, maybe spend some time with those kids that need you so much. You are in their life for a reason, and they are in yours for a reason.

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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 1:08pm

jimmy's mom


i reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally like what you said. about how looking back she was able to help others who had children. i reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally like that. but for me.. call me selfish right now.. but thats alot to chew off!.


i wish i coul. i have a hard enough time.. just going to my mil house in 2 weeks for a party that will have 3 kids autumns age. a newborn and one nearly due.


i want to be there... sometimes.. the anxitey is worse that the duty of helping others.. ill try and give it a try.


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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 4:27pm

*hugs* thank you for calling me Jimmy's mom. Nobody's ever done that before and gosh it sounded so good!

Sometimes we are called to do difficult things...not everything that we are asked to do is easy or makes us happy right away, but yes, looking back we can see a lot of joy where at the time we only saw pain and sacrifice.
You seem so loving and have such a great attitude, I admire that.

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Mon, 03-15-2010 - 5:34pm
Oh sweetie. I know the feeling. HUGS.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n