Just started TTC after stillbirth

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Just started TTC after stillbirth
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Mon, 02-08-2010 - 7:16pm

Hi everyone,


I just came across this discussion sight today as I was looking for some support...


My husband and I lost our son Dean at 37 weeks on Sept. 18th.

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Mon, 02-08-2010 - 7:52pm

I am sorry for the lose of your son, Dean, and the fact that you have to be here, but I am glad that you found this board. These ladies are great and can help get you through just about anything.


Unfortunately, the best thing to do to get pregnant is not to stress and worry about it too much. Ya, right, like that is going to happen. One of the biggest fears after the lose of a child is not being able to get pregnant again. It seems like you are constantly in waiting game...waiting for O and then waiting for AF. Try to relax as best you can.


Many women find that their cycles are not "normal" for 6 months or more after their lose. This is very common but very frustrating. I had AF 4 wks after the lose of my DD at 38 wks and then nothing. I ended up Oing on cd72 and shockingly got pregnant. Some women find it helpful to take their temperatures (that's what worked for me) and some women use OPKs, cervical position,

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Tue, 02-09-2010 - 10:55am

Thanks Melissa for your advice:)

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers 
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Tue, 02-09-2010 - 12:38pm

Nola,


I am sorry things are not going well at work. It would be nice if when something bad happens in our life, the rest of it would be Ok, but it never seems to work that way. It is very common to go through depression after the birth of a child, not even taking into account the grief and depression of losing one. My DH and I have be seeing a councilor since Emory died...it has been very helpful. I would suggest trying this first before going on an antidepressant. It won't hurt.


The acronyms can be very confusing. It is a whole new language. Here is a list of some of the most common.


BBT Basal Body Temperature

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Tue, 02-09-2010 - 1:57pm
Melissa, can I borrow your list to share as a post?

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Tue, 02-09-2010 - 2:05pm

Feel free.


Melissa

emorysiggy
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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 1:14pm
I'm so sorry about the loss of your son, Dean.

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Registered: 08-07-2009
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 12:11am

I am sorry for your loss and sorry that you need us, but the women on here are great. I wish nobody else ever had to join this board, but sadly stillbirth is so much more prevealant than I ever imagined. I lost my son on May 21, 2009 at 38 weeks due to a cord accident. I tried to deliver when I knew he was gone, but after 30+ hours and a horrific attempt at a vaginal delivery I had to have an emergency c-section to save me. So I have had to wait 6 months to heal, and now I am trying again. I know how frustrating it is....I think thought that I have to take the pressure off. Last month my husband said that he felt like sex had become a job. I realized that is the last thing that we need, so I am trying, with some difficulty, to approach this with a more relaxed attitude.

As for the Zoloft, I was offered it too because I hardly slept for 3 months...I could not get my mind to go quiet, but I declined and went to some counselling and I also started walking a lot. This seemed to help me, but if you need it, you need it. Everyone is different and this is not an easy journey to be on. I am still coming to terms with the fact that I will never be the same person, and I am trying to learn to be okay with that.

I wish you strength, love and a little peace in the days and months ahead. Come here anytime you need help or just want to get things off your chest!

Sammi