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Registered: 04-07-2005
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 5:58pm

I know that TTC I have been making a lot of changes with my life and how I handle situations, as well as my health.

I lost 32lbs, I work out at least 3 times a week. I have sworn off most sugar, caffeine and have added in vegetables and such.

I have just realized I am making all of these changes and for three months now, nothing, BFN after BFN.

So now, I am giving up chocolate and a few other things... like my one glass of wine with dinner every night.

Sometimes I am so bitter, I tend to think if crack addicts can get pregnant, then what do I have to do to get pregnant, stay that way and hold our live screaming child.

I am just so stressed out sometimes, I dont know what else I have to/should do. Its definitely a heart wrenching situation.....

Anyone else feel like this ever? I just feel so alone lately in my thoughts, I know I can vent here... thanks for listening.



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Registered: 09-21-2009
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 7:31pm


You are doing everything right that is within you power to control. You are taking care of yourself, you are making your marriage a priority, and you are grieving for Kimberly not to mention, holding down a full time job , taking care of a household, and lets throw the holidays in there too because you don't have enough stress in your life. To top it all off, you get to read about women who just joined the board ( myself included) that are pregnant in their first month of trying. You have a right to feel angry and upset and even bitter. This road has most defiantly not been fair.

You are a good person.

You deserve to be a parent.

You will be a mother.

These three things I know in my heart to be true.

Sending you positive vibes!


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Registered: 04-24-2007
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 7:49pm

Danielle, you have done everything in your power to prepare yourself to get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy. But ultimately, it is not in your hands, and that is something I battle with every day.


*Remembering Our Angel Baby Edward Scott  4/

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Registered: 11-24-2008
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 9:09pm

Sounds like you've done most everything that you can.

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Registered: 09-26-2009
Mon, 11-23-2009 - 9:35pm


Please know that you are doing everything you can to be pregnant and stay pregnant! Unfortunately, there is only so much we can do. It is so hard to accept, and I definitely have not accepted it, but it is true. I wish you all the best. I really really hope you tell us all some good news soon.

Oh, and keep drinking the wine... it will help you relax a little :)