Stillborn at 21 weeks

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Stillborn at 21 weeks
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Thu, 11-26-2009 - 11:10pm

My baby girl, Willow Rose, was stillborn November 12th @ 7:03 pm. Days earlier my husband and I met at the Drs office for a routine u/s. Instead of leaving with u/s photos

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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 7:11am

I also had a stillborn at 21 weeks.

Susan
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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 12:54pm

I am so sorry. You have support from all of us here.


I lost my son at 24 weeks. No cause known. I have 2 children, and have lost 3.


I am pregnant again and praying for a sticky and healthy baby.


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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 4:21pm

I am so sorry for your lose!


My Emory Elizabeth was born sleeping 7/8/09 at 38 weeks due to a cord accident. I also have living children DS 10 and DD 4. Emory was going to be our last child since I am 2 wks away from my 39th Bday.


My DR told us we should wait for 3 "normal" cycles before we tried again. AF showed up 4 wks later and stay 2 wks. My Dh and I decided we would put things in God's hands and started trying right after that. God had a sense of humor because nothing happened. No BFP, No O, and N0 AF for 2 and a half months!I had never had this happen after my other 2 pregnancies even though I

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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 5:56pm

I am so sorry that we are all here but personally find a bit of comfort in knowing that I am not alone. Sure we all have friends and family that we talk to but no one understands the situation better than other women who have experienced the tragedy of losing a child.
I lost my first child the end of Sept. at 34 1/2 weeks due to an unknown cause. Blood work postpartum revealed I have a single mutation of MTHFR which may have caused an infarction in the placenta. We don't know for certain that is what caused the lose.

I understand your not wanting to replace but wanting another child. I am right there with you. I know pregnancy will never be the same for me. It was my first pregnancy and had been perfect the entire time. I cherish the time I had with my child for the 7 months I knew I was pregnant. I was the happiest person in the world and then suddenly became the saddest. I too want to try again as soon as my body will allow it to happen.
I feel like we have found a very supportive place to be.
hugs to you.

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 6:24pm

Thanks for all your support and for listening. I dont know what to expect w/ AF since I have PCOS and I haven't had a regular AF my entire adult life. My Dr gave me meds to start AF before starting Clomid, so my fate lies in God's hands and the Drs.


I lost Willow on the 12th and I haven't stopped bleeding yet. I lost a lot of blood during the delivery and at one point the Drs were discussing blood transfusion which was scary. However, it finally slowed down and I delivered the placenta w/o any other problems. Im still wearing a tight sports bra due to my milk coming in (even though the resident Dr told me it wouldnt). My breasts still ache.


Hopefully, I will recover soon and I can begin TTC as sson as possible... pending the post delivery blood tests. Keep your fingers crossed for me b/c deep down inside I feel like it was my last chance.

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Sun, 11-29-2009 - 10:28am
I was looking at my journal and I bleed for about 3 weeks, then it stopped for several days and started again. My midwife said that was a cycle and when she checked me said I was getting ready to ovulate and that was two weeks ago. I too am hoping my cycle resumes today or asap.
As far as your milk coming in......that only added to my emotions and one of my midwives brought over a head of cabbage and parsley tablets that I started using the day I came home. You put a couple of the cold leaves of cabbage in your sports bra and the coolness helps with any swelling and helps stop the milk from coming in. Replace every couple of hours. Parsley is said to help stop that as well. I also used a tea called "No More Milk Tea" that is made by Earth Mama and I think that helped too.My breast did swell a bit but it went away in two days. I hope this helps you.
Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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Sun, 11-29-2009 - 10:53am
I am so sorry for your loss ((HUGS))
Nicole
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Nicole
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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 10:18am

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Willow Rose.... Many hugs to you at this time. You came to the right place for support, understanding and a sense of hope.


We lost Kimberly at 31 weeks, no heartbeat and little fluid left at a regular OB appt, April 7, 2009... she was stillborn delivered on April 10, 2009. We have no real reasons for this yet. Our old OB had no reasons, ideas, or even thoughts as to what happened. My DH and I think he totally missed something with the pregnancy.

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Mon, 11-30-2009 - 10:49am
I am so sorry for your loss. I found out I lost my son at an ultrasound too. Mine was ruled a cord accident but he was 28 weeks. It is so unfair. ((HUGS)) to you.

Cindy age 38, DH 44


http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/218a4d


Chemical pregnancy Aug 5th 2009 Levon lost @ 28 weeks due to a cord accident June 19th 2008. TTC for 18 cycles and counting :(


 

 

 

 

Cindy