waiting for the strength

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Registered: 08-25-2008
waiting for the strength
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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 11:15pm

i have 3 older living children 9,10, and 11.


they do help in easing the pain.


but on some days,, alot of the days...the pain is so bad,, i feel theres nothing that could lift


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Registered: 08-27-2007
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 7:43am

I'm praying for you. I myself dont always beleive that Gods never gives us more then we can handle. But I KNOW he never leaves us to handle anything alone.


Just remember that. You have many people who are praying for you and who are in similair situations and share your pain with you.


I think the best thing I ever did was go to counselling. I would find a perinatal bereavement counsellor or family counsellor who has expereince with us parents who have had stillbirths. Its vital to have that support person.


IF you would like I can help you find some counsellors in your area. I know that in the early stages after the thought of sitting down with a phonebook in my lap looking for help was so far beyond what I was emotionally cpapable of.


You can e-mail me through my profile anytime. And if you choose to you can e-mail me your state and I can see what I can find fo ryou.


Blesings sweetie.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


 &n

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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 8:36am
She's right...counseling is wonderful. And so is a cat. Seriously. About a month ago I just couldn't take the empty arms feeling anymore. I was going to have an absolute fit!! I have two stepchildren, one son here and one son in heaven and two dogs and a loving husband...but still empty arms. So I got a cat. Amazing how that worked, haha!
It hurts a lot less while we are ttc and waiting.

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 9:24am

i have 2 cats.. and we just moved into a new house about 3 weeks ago.. and there was a new cat there!! so now we have 3!!


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Registered: 12-03-2009
Fri, 04-02-2010 - 5:28pm
Hooray for snuggly kitties! Also, how serendipitous that the third kitty found you and chose you, eh? meow! :)

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