Disney,w/ almost grown daugthers

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Registered: 06-20-2007
Disney,w/ almost grown daugthers
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 11:24am

Hello,

I am going to Disney (December 22,2007-December 29,2007), with my 22,21,15,and my future son-in-law,plus my wife who is going through menopause,not having a good time to say the least, often due to mood swings there is alot of problems. My wife forgets thats the kids are very much grown, and still expects them to do what she feels, she is also sligthly health impared and doing many daily things are difficult so she needs and expects people to do and wait on her, which very often presents a problem. I want peace and some relaxition, not looking forward to a week of hell. What we want and what they want are different,HELP....

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:09pm

Perhaps you could establish ahead of time which days will be spent together as a family and which days will be "free" days for you all to split up and do what you each want to do. Or maybe part of each day is designated as "family time" (meeting for lunch or dinner). That way your wife and your kids know what to expect going in to the trip rather than dealing with misunderstandings and unmet expectations while you're gone. Maybe you could plan a few things for just you and your wife to do together without the kids. Taking your wife on a few "dates" could be a win-win for everyone....she feels special because you're doing something just for her and the kids are able to go off on their own without worrying that mom feels left out.

Amy

 

Amy

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Registered: 06-20-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:20pm
good ideas,thanks for the thought
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:23pm

I just wanted to second what the other post mentioned - decided BEFORE you get to Disney what you would like to see/do. Then group people according to those plans. You don't all have to do the same thing at the same time . . . just as long as you designate family time, daughter/mother time, girls-only time, etc.

Ruth in FL


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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 7:45am

Hope you have a wonderful relaxing time at Disney; it sounds like you deserve it! Disney is a magical place, and I really hope you all have a good time.

Perhaps a customized map might help with the planning? You and your wife could pick out the things that are most important for you, and your dds could pick out what they want to see, and hopefully there will be things that you can see together.

http://disneyworld.disney.go.com/wdw/myVacation/customizedMaps/index?id=CustomizedMapsSampleMapsPage

Good luck!

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 9:08pm

First, you do realize that that's one of the busiest weeks of the year at WDW, and there will be crowds, if mobility is a problem you should consider staying on-site. There are also wheelchairs and scooters available for rent either from WDW at the parks, or from private companies that rent equipment.

Since your kids are "almost grown" as you say, why not ask them all (and yourself and your dw, too) what they expect from their visit to WDW? If it's the first time they are visiting, they might all say some of the same things, like they might all want to see The Enchanted Tiki Hut - Under New Management, or they might all want to ride Space Mountain, or they might all enjoy eating together at the Garden Grille Restaurant. That way, you can build into the week things that everyone wants to do, as well as have time for the kids to go off and do their own things.

I agree with the other posters ... Dad/Mom Date time might be just the ticket, and that way, the kids can go off and do teenager or young/adult activities together. If you and Mom have date time planned, she won't be put off that the kids aren't with the two of you all the time.

Good luck & have fun! You all deserve it :D. Make it a magical vacation.

In peace,
Max