Hmmm. DH says he won't go back.....

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Hmmm. DH says he won't go back.....
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 10:37am

We had a great time at Disney World. DH & I went 11 years ago (pre-kids) and DH went to Disneyland with his brother a few years before that. We always planned to go when our youngest was big enough for all the rides. We figured we'd go in another two or three years form now.

This trip was DH's idea and kind of caught us off guard. We cashed in on some surprise "rewards" - it was a use it or lose it deal. We had to go now. As we were planning, we talked about this trip being a "one time only" sort of thing. We go, and we don't go back.

But when we were down there, DH sort of softened a bit and our "we should haves" turned into "next time, we'll....". So I started thinking about coming back in 2-3-5 years - sometime.

But now, DH says, he's done the Disney thing three times and that's it for him. He doesn't want to go back again. He mentioned that the kids will be big enough for me and the kids to go without him. To me, that's just silly.

Anyone have to deal with a family member who doesn't want to go back? It kind of puts a damper on the fun of planning. I suspect that if I plan it, he'll go along. But I suppose we should work in some non-Disney activities if that's the case. Any tips, or sympathy????

Cathie

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 11:56am

We actually wanted my DH's neice and her 15 year old son to go with us, but the 15 year old son says he isn't interested in going. He wants to go to Las Vegas! For what? He's not old enough to gamble! My DH and I went to Reno in 1998 after my cousin's wedding in Sacremento,Ca. I really wasn't that impressed with it. We don't gamble. The food was really good, and moderately priced. There were no shows we got to see. Actually we were bored. Her 15 year old also thought about maybe Washington,DC. DC is VERY EXPENSIVE, and EVERY place you go into it's like getting on an airplane over and over again. We went last Fall and I will say our hotel room was nice, but expensive,plus 35.00 a day to have our car parked there. We either walked or used the Metro to get around.

Maybe your DH will change his mind in a few years. Me and my Dh are doing it this Fall for our grandson. We usually like Williamsburg,Va.

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 12:11pm

I totally understand. My SO doesnt' want to go back again. I'd been once before, he'd never been. My two oldest and I are dying to go back. I wouldn't probably take the baby back for a few years. But my oldest is 13 so I don't want to wait until she's a senior in high school or something to go back.

I have taken my kids on vacation alone and traveled all over alone for work so taking them alone does not bother me. Maybe if you really want to go and he won't budge you could find a girlfriend or relative with kids who wants to go too? Then you'll have another adult plus someone to share costs.

But I have a feeling both your dh and my SO would change their minds if given a little time. It's just like when we women give birth. Ask us a few days or weeks after and we might say no more kids. THen a few months or years go by and we start thinking about it. ;)

Tara

 

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 12:48pm

Cathie,


My husband is the same way!

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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 1:53pm
I think your best bet is for you to be willing to listen to your DH about WHY he won't go back (without drilling him, LOL) For example I would proceed differently if it was just that 'he'd had enough' of Disney himself, than if he'd rather take the family 'somewhere else', etc. It soudns as though he supports you taking the kids. If that's the case I would ask what he plans to do in the meantime...then probably totally plan on going by yourself with the kids and having fun! If he's just bored, the idea of compromising and including non-Disney stuff in the plan sounds fine, as long as the things he want to do, you and/or the kids share some level of interest in.
I do relate to the thought of wanting to do things "as a family" and being frustrated when someone, whether a DH or a teenager who thinks they're "too cool" won't cooperate. But I have learned that we can't really "make" anyone cooperate, all we can do is get to their motivation for wanting to or not wanting to do things and then go from there, you know?
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Tue, 05-22-2007 - 5:36pm

Can't help with tips, but you have tons of sympathy from me. I can't imagine - my dh is almost as big of a disney head as I am.

JoAnna in TX