About the tag-a-longs at camps...for cub scout camp, which I've never been to yet...they say that we are welcome to bring them along and keep them with us, but for crafts and such, they will not be able to participate because it's only for the boys. There's nobody there to specifically watch the leader's kids and there's no area for them. If time allows, they can do some of the things like archery that don't use up any resources.
At girl scout day camp, they have a tag-a-long unit for the little ones and boys that have to accompany their moms. Sometimes, they break them into two groups...little kids and bigger boys. Usually, they have scheduled times like all the other units have for lunch, crafts, and whatever else is going on. One year, they just brought bubbles and a little baby pool and a tiny sandbox for the littlest kids and plunked them down right outside the lodge under a tree so the lady who was in charge of them could easily get other adult help from the nurse, cooks, and other ladies when she needed a break or had to clean up a kid or take someone potty. They also had a corner of the lodge inside with those thin mattresses and some books and a fan. That was the best set-up for the little ones.
I'm a little unsure about having to monitor the cubs at cub scout camp and get them from place to place and such while also having to be a parent to my other kids. And I'm wondering how they will react when they have to be there, but aren't allowed to participate. On the bright side, it may work out that I can trade with another mom while one of us goes to camp each day and the other of us stays home with all the others.
If your Day Camp is not providing program for siblings, then I really don't understand why they are allowing them there.
I agree that they should either provide a space/unit for the extra kids who's parents are "working" the camp, or they should just say "sorry, no extra kids". But that's not what they are doing. They say, come and bring little brother/sister if you want...but they don't get to do XYZ. I am not sure how this will work out. Until this other family decided to sign up their 2 little boys, I was going to have to take along my 2 extras on the days I was going. But now between this other family and myself, I'm pretty sure we won't have to subject the extras to the misery of tagging along all that time. And it will be a sanity saver for us adults too!
This is our first year, so I'm anxious to see what it's all about and compare/contrast to my Girl Scout Day Camp experiences! I'm sure it will be very different.