co-leader issues

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co-leader issues
Sat, 04-16-2011 - 6:38pm


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Registered: 04-26-2002
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 8:48pm
I think the first thing that I'd do is talk to the SU person and see what she suggests if you think she is pretty good. Then maybe what I'd do is talk in person with your co and maybe let her know that if she isn't happy being the co leader that you think she could be good for your troop as a coordinator of trips or as a person who schedules who brings the snack. Since you will be moving onto Brownies eventually, you should be running into more girls joining and maybe you will come across that mom who connects well with you or the one who handles finances well. Good luck. I definitely think that it's not good to continue with a person who stresses you out! You will not want to continue and the girls won't have a good experience.

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Registered: 05-28-2000
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 8:48am
That's the exact kind of situation I hate. I hate confrontation. If she is making it miserable for you then you have to say something. I agree with Jen about talking to the SU to see if she can support you.

Kinda what Jen was saying - do you have enough girls to split the troop? I know that happened with the 1st grade girl scout troop at our school. The leader and co-leader just didn;t mesh. They split the girls and both recruited a few more to make two.

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Registered: 03-12-2004
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 2:24pm
Well, my personality is more direct and for my own piece of mind, I'd talk directly to her and ask her what issues she is having. I'd also be sure to let her know that you know she is going behind her back and talking about you to others and that you don't appreciate it. I'm not saying to be combative but just direct. I agree with the pp's suggestion of asking her if she would feel more comfortable as the field trip coordinator, etc. You are the leader and you need to run it as you see fit. Especially as it seems you have more experience in running a troop. Not saying you shouldn't take other's ideas into account, just that you can't please all the people all the time so there is no sense in beating yourself up trying. I hope you work it out.