I need advice

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Registered: 06-12-2005
I need advice
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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 11:33am

My DD is in Daisies. When the troop formed in Sept. I vol. to be a co-leader. They already had a co-leader and a leader. Which was fine with me. after a few meetings I expressed interest in either being a co-leader or just a mom helper. I would be ok with both. I was pressured into co-leader.

I did the application process etc.

I email/call the troop leader every other week to see if she needs help. She never does. OK

And she never asks me to help plan the meeting. I'm not happy about how the meetings are run. ie, The girls are 5 and she gives them a project where the girls have to read! alot of the girls needed help and my daughter got such frustrated she started to cry I had remove her from the table.

Also, some of the things this woman talks about to the girls are totally opposite of how I want to raise my daughter. She talks about punishment, stage fright, being scared what!!!!

The leaders DD is in this troop and she seems to have all these patches and petals ahead of the other girls. And he mom doesn't stop her from showing off! Its a small group none of the other moms seem to care.

It would be easy if I could just take my daughter out of Daisies but guess what she really likes going to the meetings and earning petals. What to do?????

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Registered: 04-26-2002
In reply to: bcwin
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:44pm

Could you start a second Daisy troop? Invite a few of your daughters friends to join and do it on a different day or same day, different time. I'm sure someone would be interested, but just isn't able to make it.

Or perhaps this leader could have all first graders while you have all kindergarten Daisy scouts? Are the troop girls in different grades? Perhaps this is why the other girl has lots of stuff already on her vest/sash?

As far as just sticking together, tell the leader that you have an idea for a meeting (once you do have one) and then offer to do it for such a date (not the following week) and see how it goes. Tell her you'd just like to give it a try in case she may be sick or something and you'd just like to be prepared. Maybe something you could offer to lead would be for Thinking Day or the Girl Scout Birthday? Those are coming up in Feb and March, respectively. This would be a pro-active approach to being a leader rather than just calling to ask if she needs anything. As a leader, I also do not need much help if asked what else needs done, but if a parent called and said, I'd like to work on such a badge with the girls and when could they do it, I'd be sure to set it up and ask what I could help that parent with!

As far as reading, GSUSA has put out the journey booklets and they do seem to have reading stuff in them for the littlest girls too. I've not worked through those books, but perhaps that is what she is trying to do??? I don't have any good advice for that part. Maybe you could volunteer to do the reading parts to the girls who need more help? Or break into groups to do certain sections of whatever the leader plans- then make sure you get your daughter's group so she isn't frustrated?

Hope that helps a bit.

-Jennifer

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Registered: 03-29-2004
In reply to: bcwin
Tue, 01-12-2010 - 10:50pm

How about telling her you have a fantastic project to earn ____ patch/petal and would like to do it at the next meeting (or whenever) & see if she says ok.

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Registered: 06-12-2005
In reply to: bcwin
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 9:05am
Thank you you are right. I was thinking this morning over coffee :) My daughter really does love it and she is also already looking forward to being a Brownie some day. I will call the leader today and ask to run a meeting or take part in running the meeting or just try to reconnect with her somehow. This is a small town (too small for another daisy troop) and the girls will probably be going to school together through high school. Its great to build relationships early on.
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Registered: 06-12-2005
In reply to: bcwin
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 9:11am
Yes, great ideas... I think she is sort of a controller..I may be too :) I'm going to relax about the whole thing and start getting a little more pro-active.