Oh help

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Oh help
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 3:45pm
Hi Ladies

OK I need help. Ordinarily I am very organized, energetic, enthusiastic....but this week, I have these hellish exams I have to take for work, plus I had Brownie training until 11:00 last night..baby is sick, you know, the usual hectic week but this one was really bad!!....I am so exhausted.

I knew this week would be bad for me, so on last week's newsletter I asked if another mom would be interested in planning this weeks meeting (I explained why, etc.) I have 15 moms, not one offered. Also, my coleader has quit so it is just me left. i have moms who stay, but thats all...

I need help, I have no petals left to work on, we have finished the steps to bridging and have the ceremony planned. I am just so tired, I cant think of a single thing to do with them tomorrow night. I am thinking of cancelling the meeting...but I feel bad doing that.

our few remaining meetings are going to just be fun ones...last week we did a whole night of games in the gym. I cant really just give them paper and crayons...there are so many of them, it really has to be a structured craft or game or something, otherwise they go wild....

can anyone help a very very tired mom ???? thanks a lot, Lisa

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In reply to: kmamka
Tue, 05-13-2003 - 3:50pm
Since you have an EXTRA busy week with exams, you've asked for help and got NONE, I'd cancel the meeting. Tell everyone why (just like you told us and mention that unfortunately no one was willing to step up to the plate and help out). Then get thru this week and that will give you time to think about the next meeting. You are a volunteer and are giving your time for these girls. And it sounds to me like you don't have that time this week. So, don't feel bad. It's what would be best.

Hugs and good luck! Margaret

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In reply to: kmamka
Tue, 05-13-2003 - 5:10pm
Thanks, I know I should do that...just feel guilty. I wish I could just think of something to do, I feel bad cancelling out, the girls look forward to it so much..

thanks!

lisa

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In reply to: kmamka
Tue, 05-13-2003 - 6:32pm
I agree with Maragret.. I would cancel the meeting.

Don't feel guilty about it. The girls will be fine.

You don't need to push yourself so far.

You asked the parents for help. They refused..

This will maybe show them when you ask for help

YOu really need it....

tammy

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In reply to: kmamka
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 8:57am
I agree. Cancel the meeting. YOu asked for help and didn't get it. If you show up and have a fun activity planned, then the parents will all know that you don't really need help when you ask for it!
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In reply to: kmamka
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 9:13am
I agree also...cancel the meeting!!! If the girls are disappointed, the parents might take note.

Some thoughts for the future...some day when you have a quiet moment, sit down and plan out a VERY simple meeting, to be used in case of emergency. Make it easy enough that a few moms could implement it, with or without your help. Stick it in the back of your file drawer and hope you never need it.

Do you have an adult to help out at meetings? (I hope so!) Use them as a springboard for recruiting new assistant leaders. You can break them in gently by asking them to lead one activity at each meeting, then planning one activity, then possibly an entire meeting. I have great moms but I really doubt anyone would be up to the task of taking over a whole meeting at the last minute.

Next year for Brownies I'm hoping to put my co and assistant leaders to more use by delegating entire try-its to them.

HTH,

Susie

(fellow student, so I know what you mean!)

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In reply to: kmamka
Wed, 05-14-2003 - 8:07pm
Thanks, everyone. I felt so guilty, but I did go ahead and cancel the meeting.

My husband saw all the Daisy "moms" in a huddle at school today, I was thinking oh gosh they are all mad at me for cancelling...but then I found out they were all saying they felt bad for not volunteering. I will DEFINITELY take your advice next year and WILL have a meeting all planned in case of emergencies...maybe two!!!!

I think they were all just kind of overwhelmed at the thought of doing it...

I am glad i cancelled, I have a chance to catch my breath!!

Lisa

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In reply to: kmamka
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 10:10am
Oh good! I was worried you'd go through with it and then feel even more stressed. Glad you cancelled :-)

Cathi

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In reply to: kmamka
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 12:42pm
I'm glad you did it. It'll give you a chance to breath. And I'm sure it was an eye-opener for your parents. I think sometimes it's easy for them to forget that you are just a volunteer and that you do this because you enjoy it but it's NOT your life (or really I should say your JOB) like a teacher or day care worker or something.

Hugs! I think I'll whip up a "meeting box" as well..that is a good idea and you just never know!

Hugs! Margaret