Sparks/Daisy overnight question

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Registered: 05-31-2001
Sparks/Daisy overnight question
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 11:25am
My daughter is 6yrs old, grade 1 second year spark. Our sparks don't do much in the way of outings, (this is the 3rd outing this year) especially compared to her beaver (boys and girls ages 5, 6, 7) friends so I hate for my daughter to miss an event. A sleepover was planned for May 2, 3 at their regular meeting hall. We arranged our May schedule so that my daughter could go. Now they changed the date by one week. The event is from Fri May 9th 7pm to Saturday May 10th 11am. My DH and myself are the organiziers for the Cub Scout soapbox derby on the 10th, starting at 9 am and 1 hour from home, in the city. (Our son is a cub). Sparks is 15minutes from home in the other direction.

What would be better from the point of view of a leader.

My daughter misses the event completely.

Attends from 7pm to about 10pm on Friday night and comes home to sleep.

Attends all night but pick her up at 7am, 4 hrs early.

Letting her go and going home with a friend after is not an option because she has her final skating lesson/test day/party in the city in the late afternoon. There wouldn't be time to drive an hour each way to pick her up.

This is the 3rd time this year that an event has been changed. The first my daughter missed completely. The 2nd was cancelled in the end due to weather. I really don't want her to miss it.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 12:42pm
We had a sleep over last year and there were a few of the girl's that weren't up for actually spending the whole night and just came for a portion of it. They got to participate in some of the fun games and then headed home when everyone was getting ready for bed. If you're daughter could do that I am sure she would have a really good time instead of missing the whole outing all together.

I gave my girls that couldn't stay some fun patches for coming and they had a blast. Good Luck


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 5:39pm
I would say give her a choice, but lean towards letting her spend the night and pick her up at 7 AM, they will certainly be awake!!! She would feel less like she missed something really fun that way.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2003 - 8:40pm
Any time something like this came up with my other troop I gave the parents and girl a choice. She could leave at or before lights out (usually around 10 or 11 pm) or she could leave at breakfast the next am (between 7 and 8 usually), after she had done her kapers. She didn't get extra kapers or different ones, just had to do a share of what her patrol was assigned. So for your daughter to leave at 7 should be fine.


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Registered: 03-29-2003
Thu, 04-17-2003 - 11:39am
I'm in agreement with KT on this. Whenever we have been faced with this type of situation, we always leave it up to the girl and her parents whether she will come and stay until lights out (at 10) or leave after breakfast (7:30-8) We always have the kapers for such events done (as much as possible) before breakfast, anyway, so there's usually not an issue with that.