Vent on supervision/judgement
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|Sun, 04-27-2003 - 6:57pm|
All in all, it was very nice. Sponsored by a Cadette troop, lots of good activities - they earned 4 Try Its. Though my troop is young, I was able to consider it as the lodge was left for the Brownies while the older girls used tents outside, and all the cooking was done by the older girls.
So, while I sometimes would not be sure that camping is entirely appropriate for girls this young, I felt like it was a good first experience where most of the dangerous or difficult elements were eliminated.
But - - was so riled up by one thing that happened.
After the campfire, a group of Cadettes came up and invited our troop to play Capture the Flag. It was not on the schedule, was an impromptu idea, I guess. I said no thank you - we were going to take the girls on a short flashlight hike (basically a trip to the bathroom and back up to the lodge with a few stops to listen to the sounds of the night and shine our lights up in the sky and into the trees) and head into bed. The girls seemed to find that a pretty exciting idea (all but one) and we had a good time.
Comparing the two activities - all my girls lined up holding hands with a buddy, with all the adults, slowly walking with their flashlights with the leader of the line saying, "Tree roots here, watch out. Low branches here, look carefully." Or - all the girls split up, running around in the dark where it was highly likely someone would get lost or hurt. Not much of a contest which is the appropriate activity in my mind.
Most of the girls were really thrilled with the flashlight hike, and two of the other moms along agreed with me - but one mom was really angry that I did not allow the Capture the Flag game. Her daughter wanted to play.
But, honestly?? I KNOW it was not an appropriate activity for 6 and 7 year old girls. They should be in our sight at all times. Knowing that they are somewhere running around the camp is not good enough. Frankly - I don't think the Cadettes should be allowed to play this game in the dark either. But I know first graders should not.
She said, "If that is what the Cadette's are planning, then I think we should be doing it. They are 6 and 7 years old for heaven's sake. Lighten up." My point exactly. They are SIX AND SEVEN YEARS OLD for heavens sakes. And since when should I defer judgment to what a bunch of 13 and 14 year old girls think is a good idea??
This mom has publically ridiculed my concern for safety before, and I've about had it.
If she wants to sign up as a leader, take all the training and be responsible for any accidents - more power to her. But I would not be sending my daughter on any trips with her. I think one of the reasons my mom's of first grade girls are even willing to ALLOW their girls on trips this young, is they know I am very cautious. I really resent her implying in front of the girls that I am keeping them from having fun somehow. There are lots and lots of fun things we can be doing - we don't have to choose dangerous ones!
Little side note - we were split into four stations during the day, and rotated. We had enough adults with our troop to send an adult with each small group as it rotated. After the two afternoon sessions, we planned for our troop to meet all together at the bathrooms. We get there, I do a head count, one is not there. GUESS whose group she was from? She was up in the lodge all by herself. So, I guess I will not be taking supervision advice from a woman who can't even keep three girls with her from the station to the bathrooms (100 yard walk max)
Thanks for the venting board....
Really needed to get some of that out, so I can approach it without losing my cool.