Can't Decide?

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Can't Decide?
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Tue, 12-13-2011 - 9:43am

I came across a very honest article from the Huffington Post that I wanted to pass along, the author is unsure if she will ever want to have a baby.

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Tue, 12-13-2011 - 11:11am
I can somewhat relate. I never liked kids as much as the author does, but I spent most of my 20's assuming that I'd wake up one day and want kids, because isn't that what you do when you grow up? I found the comments as interesting as the article. I heard many of the same being a mother is natural/you're never really ready/just take life's great leap of faith comments. It was really those that turned the tide for me. I started thinking, "yes, maybe, but what if it doesn't work out that way." I personally knew a number of mothers who didn't seem to be all that enamored with being a mom. Yes, they loved their kids. They weren't abusive or neglectful. They just really didn't seem to be enjoying the *role* of being a mom. And as the child of a mom who dreamed of being a mom since she was a little girl, I didn't want to be a lukewarm parent. So, it seemed to me that if I had the choice of risking having a child who would sense that I was often just "meh" and regretting not being a mom, when only I would suffer...I chose to wait. I'm 43 now, and I know that it was absolutely the right choice to make.