DDT #4?

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Registered: 08-27-2006
DDT #4?
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 1:27am

DH & I have 3 children already, ages 8, 5, and 2.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 12-06-2011 - 2:45pm
Why not give it 6 months or so to think it over? It sounds like you both want to have a 4th, so maybe that will give some time to save up a little, and get closer to paying off your car by the time the baby is born. That way it's a possibility, but you don't have to make a decision right now.

Does your DH have the possibility of advancement in the next couple of years, is his job pretty stable?

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Registered: 01-02-2009
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 3:12pm


I am in a similar situation as you are in right now. DH and I have three kids 8, 6, & 2. After our last one which was a boy finally DH stated he did not want anymore kids. I on the other hand have always been open to the idea of at least another baby. It is so hard as a woman to close that door on your femininity, and say you are done completely (speaking for myself). You seem to be in a better situation since you cloth diaper, breastfeed, and are a SAHM. I don't cloth diaper (wish I did), I do however breastfeed for at least 15 months, but our kids do go to daycare as I work full time. If I had your situation I wouldn't even worry about the financial burden as it seems like it won't be much as a burden.

I do have a mortgage, two car notes, daycare and after school to pay, so the decision is a little tougher for us. I did however get DH to start talking about possibly having a fourth. He asked me if I didn't think 4 was too much. I stated I did not think it was. I don't have a very strong desire to have another baby, but I hate thinking that I am done. I am about to turn 29 in 9 days, and I hate to think that I am done when I have so many child bearing years left in me.

I hope you and DH have come to an agreement you both are very comfortable with. Good luck!!!