Do more kids have to equal more stress?

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Do more kids have to equal more stress?
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 4:39pm

Here is a different take on an article I posted a couple of weeks ago on a study that found that having two kids is more stressful than three.  The author feels that parents know how many kids they can handle, and stop when that limit is reached: 

I'm not saying that three kids aren't stressful for a lot of people. It can be. Just like it is very stressful for some parents of one child, two, four, five, etc. I call it the Pitter Patter Principle. (The original Peter Principle I'm referencing states that people are promoted to a level of incompetency.) Perhaps those who are lucky enough to actively choose the number of children they have, sometimes also reach beyond the level of what they would see as acceptable stress. They are not incompetent in this way, of course. They just learn when to stop.

I can relate to that feeling, I just knew that having more than four would put me over the edge of sanity.  Four just seemed to be the right number for me.  What do you think?  How many kids do you think your stress level could handle?