Family Input?

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Family Input?
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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 4:24pm

I was curious if anyone is gets pressure from family or friends on whether or not they should have another child?

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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 5:30pm
People are always going to have an opinion, and many will feel all too free to offer it. I got lots of family pressure about having kids, both direct and sly. The sly kind is particularly hard to deal with because if you call people on it you get accused of being oversensitive. Finally, I just started telling people that procreation is the most personal thing a couple can do, so my husband and I have decided to not share the decision making process with anyone outside our marriage. If we feel we need any advice, we'll ask. It took some "lather, rinse, repeat" but most people finally got it!
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 1:55am

Hi, I'm a frequent visitor to these boards and I liked this particular question.

YES, there is pressure from certain family members. I feel quite sure that my MIL would have my head on a platter if she knew I wanted another baby. She's in her seventies and seems to be feeling generally maxed out when it comes to small children. Between me and my SIL, we've given her six grandchildren ages ten and under. Just to note, I rarely ask for her help, it's my SIL who does, but that's another issue.

Offsetting all this in a positive way is the fact that my own father would be giddy with joy if I had another baby. He loves infants and never misses a chance to snuggle and hold a baby! So, it's easy for me to keep that in mind! And after all, the only ones whose opinions matter are mine and DH's, when it comes to procreation.

Have a great day, everybody.

Molly

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Mon, 02-27-2012 - 10:47am
I loved the description of your dad, I'm sure he would be delighted by another baby to snuggle :)

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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 8:45am

I usually just lurk here but I saw this thread and thought I would say something.

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Mon, 04-23-2012 - 2:12pm

Wow! I just can't get over a parent being that selfish as to not want their own child to have children just because it doesn't suit them.

I'm glad you didn't cave to their pressures, you do have to just ignore all of it.