Mom to 4 boys...pondering trying again for a girl

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Mom to 4 boys...pondering trying again for a girl
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Mon, 12-10-2012 - 11:22pm

I thought we were done. We have been around ivillage since 2004 when we I expecting #1. I thought I would never visit the expecting boards again, muchless the deciding or waiting to try. I had every itention of getting a Tubal in the spring. Last night my DH threw me a curve ball. He has never really wanted a little girl, but last night he said he has some regret that he won't have the special relationship. He said he wasn't sure he was done seeing me pregnant or celebrating the joy of bringing a new life into the world. My jaw dropped. I had given up. I had moved on. And here we are...not sure where we stand or how to digest it all. My family won't understand. We have 4 boys, 7, 6, 4, 2. We are a single income family. I had given up any hope and now this. I'm seriously lost and need to share with someone because I can't post it on facebook. sign.



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Registered: 02-07-2011

I've been spending a lot of time waffling back and forth as well, and still can't make up my mind. While the thought of another baby is so compelling, I'm at such a comfortable place in my life and family that I'm not sure I'm willing to disrupt it. My kids are older than yours, I think it would be an easier transition if they were younger. Do you have to decide right now, can you give it a few months to see if you are both feeling this way? 

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Registered: 11-13-2008

Hi Sherra!  I have four boys as well, and have contemplated at times trying again for a girl, but know in my heart that I've reached my limit.  I was totally shocked myself when my dh said a few months ago that he wouldn't mind having another, totally unexpected especially since he tends to get more stressed around all the chaos.  My boys are older, my youngest is 9, and I do miss having a baby in the house.  It becomes worse as they get older.  It sounds like you wanted more but accepted that he didn't?  I like the suggestion to give it a few months to see how you feel about it.