Never Say Never

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Never Say Never
Tue, 02-12-2013 - 1:24pm

This Huffington Post blogger was discussing the decision made by people she knows that they will remain child free, and how it's hard to make such a definitive decision at a young age: 

How can you be so sure? I think having kids is one of those things you should probably never say never about. What feels right today may not feel so right tomorrow. I'd be the first to acknowledge that not everyone is cut out for parenting; yes, there are some mass murderers and a few soccer moms I'm directing that comment to. But, based on nothing but my own experience and beliefs, parenting is a unique experience that stretches our capacity to show compassion toward others. It lowers our self-absorption level and requires us to put another's needs ahead of of our own. That's a good thing, especially when carried out on a large scale.

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She talks about how she wasn't into children until she was older, and then they adopted two from China.  Up to the point of meeting her daughter, she had misgivings about becoming a parent.  While I agree with her that you should never say never, I do believe there are people who can make that choice and be perfectly fine with it the rest of their lives.  I think the main point is that you should be open to the possibility that you might have a change of heart later on.

What do you think?