want a baby but unsure about boyfriend

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Registered: 04-20-2012
want a baby but unsure about boyfriend
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 2:54pm

i'm reaching my late 30s and have been feeling my biological clock ticking for the past several years.

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Registered: 04-11-2012
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 3:22pm

Personally I think as long as you are both committed to being good parents than it doesn't matter if your relationship falls apart-as long as the child doesn't get caught in the middle of a nasty struggle later on down the road. Unfortunately we all know of too many relationship failures where the kids are the ones who do all the suffering from the breakdown of their parent's relationship. Give some thought about how fun it is to spend 3.5 days a week in one house and 3.5 days a week in another listening to griping, complaining and he did this/she did that for years on end.

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Registered: 02-07-2011
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 2:10pm
You never really know what's going to happen in life; I have friends that were perfect for each other and ended up divorced. If you can both provide for a child financially and emotionally, than I say go for it. Although children can put a strain on a relationship, I also think it brings more depth. Sometimes couples that start off as friends do a better job at the whole thing!

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Registered: 10-21-2011
Tue, 04-24-2012 - 10:21am

If you're not sure if he's the one, why would you want to commit your life (and your baby's life) to this man?