What's the best age?

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Registered: 09-30-2011
What's the best age?
Fri, 09-30-2011 - 2:01pm

Hello, my name is Lindsey.

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Registered: 12-05-2005
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 12:15pm

Hi Lindsey,

I married young, and had kids young :). I am 25, and I have 2 kids. I married at 19 and had my first at 21. Personally I think that the younger you are the better because then you can really have the energy to keep up with them. At 25 and 24, I am sure you guys are ready. I think that is about the time most people start their families. Personally I dont think that you have to wait till you get into a house to be "ready", there's always those well I have to do this then we will be ready, I should save X amount of money before we're ready but you never feel quite "ready" in that sense. Now I wouldn't just say go out and get pregnant unless that is absolutely what you want emotionally right now. There are always gonna be doubts, about if your ready or not but you have to decide if those are just "jitters" or real solid reasons not to have kids yet. Personaly I wished I would have waited 1 more year. (I was pregnant on my 21st birthday) So that I could have enjoyed being 21 and partying a lot more. But it doesn't mean I cant still go out and have some fun now and then. As for trying I am so type a about trying that I could never just let it go once we stopped preventing. So I always thought it would be nice just to stop preventing and letting it happen if it happened ya know? Wow that got winded! Haha. Hope that helps.


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Fri, 10-07-2011 - 6:44pm

My DH and I waited until we were in our mid 30's. I was 33 when I got pregnant, 34 when I had my son. I was almost 27 when we got married and we wanted several years to ourselves before we had a family. Also we didn't have a lot of money and we also wanted to buy a house and have a stable place to live. We had moved several times across the country and I didn't want to be moving with kids. We still sruggle financially but we're a lot better shape than we would have been if we would have had kids right away.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13