YES? NO? MAYBE? Opinions-- PLEASE.
Find a Conversation
|Mon, 03-18-2013 - 3:26pm|
Okay, I am going to try and keep this simple. I am 24, I had my son when I was 18. He is now 5. I met my SO when my son was 2. My SO has been the only father he has known. My SO and I are engaged, we rent our home and will probably purchase one in the near future. I have a year left until I obtain my bachelor's degree and I plan to continue to to my masters then my PhD (eventually). SO has a steady job also.
I guess the idea of having a child is scary to me. I was 18 when I had my son so needless to say it was not the best reaction I could get. I was set in being a mom and had a natural birth and breastfed, etc. I would like to be able to devote that time to any future child I have as well. I know that has got to be either while I am in school still or until after I get my PhD.
All the people who are my age are having babies now instead of when they were 18 (like I did) so I get kind of envious. I am up and down about it. I want my son to have a sibling. I dont want to have raised on child and then have to do it all over again, ya know? I would like them to be close in age. I suppose the main reason is that I am ready, I do not want my children to be spaced extremely far apart and I want to devote time to a child while I am still in school vs when I have a 9-5. Financially I also think we could do it.
My SO and I are serious, I am sure we will get married one day as we are already engaged, though we are in no rush and being married isnt a prerequisite to having a child IMO (obviously, haha).
I do not know, I am just reaching out for opinions, advice, experience.
I cannot talk to my family about it because they believe I must be married to have a child and for some reason when someone in my family gets pregnant it is never good news. Who knows.
Any insight is much appreciated. :)