1 in 5 Women Have Gender Disappointment

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1 in 5 Women Have Gender Disappointment
Fri, 02-08-2013 - 4:12pm

I think there are some of us on this board that can relate to feeling gender disappointment, and it's good to know that we aren't alone.  The Today Show did a story on it, and I thought it was interesting on how you try to overcome it: 

“When a mom finds out she’s having the opposite gender desired, she starts telling herself little stories about why this gender is going to be a good thing.  Like how, if they’re having a boy and they wanted a girl, they get to avoid the dreaded teenage years” explains Dr. Brizendine.  “It’s called active reframing and it starts immediately.  If there is any real disappointment, it often barely rises to the surface and the woman doesn’t even realize it’s there.”

Read more: http://www.today.com/moms/gender-disappointment-expectant-mothers-confess-secret-regrets-1C8144610

Now I have to say, there was real disspointment with my youngest and it showed itself during the ultrasound and afterwards.  I don't think it's that easy to get past it, but something you have to work on.  

What do you think?