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Gender issues/son with feminine instincts
| Wed, 03-13-2013 - 11:38am |
I have a ten year old son, who is going through gender issues. I just read the below from The Huffington Post. I was wondering if this women has it correct, or is she satisfying her own desires, i.e changing her son to a daughter. Would like to know what others think.
http://www.examiner.com/article/my-princess-boy-childhood-cross-dressing-and-the-approaching-storm
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I'm not sure you'll get tons of feedback on the board, it's geared for people who are trying to sway gender while TTC a baby, but I wanted to respond.
I hesitate to give an opinion on this mom's motives. On one hand, as a parent you do have to be careful that you don't encourage your child to be something that they truly aren't. On the other hand, if this boy truly has gender issues, than I'm glad he has a parent who support him. I can't determine if this mother is just accepting her son or encouraging it.
Children have their own distinct personalities from birth, and while they can change with certain influences, at their core they are still the same. While it's scary to think that your child could live a different than "normal" life, no parents wants to see their child face those hardships, you could do some serious damage if you try to make them deny it. I would hope that parents would find a counseler or psychologist with experience in gender issues to help both the child and the parent navigate their way.
I'm not sure I answered your question.
Thank you Abby! I felt that I might not be on the right board. I saw Gender, and went from there. Could you direct me where I'm suppose to be? I'm still thinking over the article. I understand the parent, single parent I think, wants what is best for her child, but wonder if the child was able to really convey to the mother his real feeling. I feel he was pretty young for that. My own son was eight when he began expressing himself to me, a little at a time. I talked to my Ped. when it all began, and she told me he would probably grow out of it. He is now going to be eleven soon..and if anything, his feminine feelings have become stronger. This article made me think of myself, and in what direction I wanted to take, with my own son. Thanks again.
JoAnne
Hi JoAnne,
It sounds like this is something that your son is not going to grow out of, and you might consider asking for a referrel to a therapist that has experience dealing with transgender issues. I have boys around his age, and it's a tough time for them; not an easy time to be different. As a parent, all you can do is to love and support your children.
I looked around our forums and while we don't have a specific board for the issue you are facing, I wanted to give you some suggestions:
10-to-14 Year Olds
Surviving Middle and High School
Elementary School
Gay, Lesbian and Bi-sexual (while this board is geared for adults, you might find some members that can relate to what your son is going through)
You sound like a very caring mom, I'm glad your son has you :)
Melissa
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I found a member on Parents of Teens that posted about her son's gender issues a couple of weeks ago, here is a link to the thread: http://www.ivillage.com/forums/comment/119837373
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Thank you so much Melissa! I really appreciate you taking time to head me in the correct direction. I will explore each site you mentioned, amd will go to the specific one you mentioned. It is so comforting to know that there are people like you, who understand. I want what is best for my son, I recognize his differences and will always be here for him. Thank you once again.
JoAnne