hubby doesn't want to budge

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Registered: 12-19-2007
hubby doesn't want to budge
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Tue, 10-30-2012 - 12:30pm

I want one more.  Just one more.  Do one pretty good sway just one time.  One last baby.  I live every day with the hope we can try one more time.  I've got hubby to agree with it at one point, and I've just got my IUD out.  Bought ph test trips and rephresh tampons.  I want to sway.  Now.  The other day I realized just how adamant hubby is against having one more.  I've talked about getting a tubal ligation after our fourth, a compromise that truly hurts me and I'm not comfortable with, but it's still not enough.  I'm not sure what will happen if hubby doesn't let me have one last shot.  I'm living every day with a hole waiting to be filled.  I'm hoping the dream can fall away after the fourth b/c I know deep down in my heart, 4 has to be it so I'll sway as much as I can and let the rest just roll away.  It will have to be enough then.  I found this article today and thought it was something to think about, but I just don't think I'm at that place in life just yet and we have no real reason not to go for 4, just b/c hubby doesn't want to, but I think it matters a whole lot more to me to have my fourth than for him not to.  He'll love that baby and he knows it....anyway, here's the link to the article I read...

http://www.blogher.com/baby-who-will-never-be-love-max?page=0,1

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 10-30-2012 - 4:29pm

I'm so sorry that he's not willing to go for a 4th :(  What are his reasons?  Do you think that if you got a third party to listen to you and make him see how much you need this, would he go for that at least?  (((HUGS))) I know how much you want to do this and hope you can make him see how important this is; not just to you but also to your marriage. 

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Thu, 11-01-2012 - 3:43pm

I think he'll come around eventually just b/c he'll be sick of hearing about it.  I just hope he gets to the point of being excited and encouraging about it

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Registered: 12-19-2007
Thu, 11-01-2012 - 3:43pm

I think he'll come around eventually just b/c he'll be sick of hearing about it.  I just hope he gets to the point of being excited and encouraging about it