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Sun, 06-21-2009 - 2:06pm

#1: I tested my pH, and it varies within the "normal" range. If I try the baking soda drink or alka seltzer, would it still help me conceive a boy? Is there any danger of becoming too alkaline?

#2: I got my 19mo girl while trying the Shettles method for a boy. I'm certain I was right on the timing, but I know it's not 100% successful. I'm still BFing, and my CM signs are all over the place. I'm nervous about not getting the timing right at all this time. Do you think I should still worry about it, or just concentrate on other techniques?

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Sun, 06-21-2009 - 10:37pm

I do not think there is such a thing as too alkaline, so if you want to use the baking soda I think it would be fine, but probably not necessary.

As far as Shettles goes, I am a big proponent. I have two Shettles boys and my SIL just had her Shettles boy 2 weeks ago, after she had already had two daughters (no GD here, didn't even know about it yet). We did all recommendations from the newest edition, TIMING is #1, position, and O, and caffeine for DHs. It worked for us without any other hubbub. The science is there and strongest with his theory, I tend to think all the other stuff is just fluff, but if someone wants to try it, go right ahead. I know with these 3 boys we were very strict and charted for months before the attempt. I also know that it is not 100%. You said you were sure with your timing, how sure? Close to 100%? Did you do the position and O on the attempt? Even if you were as close to perfect as possible last time, I would still try the Shettles if it were me. I mean its like close to 90% right on for a boy, so your daughter was the 10% and now you have an even better chance, right?

As far as the bfing, how often are you still nursing her? Are you wanting to TTC before you wean her? It is harder to read the CM while, so if you are not planning to wean, you will have to rely on your temp more heavily. You could also use the OPK, just make sure you use them exactly like Shettles says and do it twice a day, for at least 2 or 3 practice cycles. This will help your see a pattern with your CM, even if it isn't normal because of the BF.

Good luck!


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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 10:42am

This was how I did the Shettles last time: I had been charting for about 6 months when we tried for a boy. I used the OPKs twice a day as Shettles recommended. After it detected the surge, we waited 12 hours and then BD vaginally from the rear. I O'd twice, once before DH and once after. We had abstained from BD for 4 days, and DH drank a Dr. Pepper 1/2 an hour before. That was at night on my peak day, and the next morning my temp had risen. Then we didn't BD for another 2 days to avoid compromising things. In short, we had done everything I understood we were supposed to do for a boy. Please tell me if I missed something, so I can do it better this time!

Concerning BFing, I nurse her 3 times a day for a few minutes each time. I can skip a whole day and not even notice it in the way my BBs feel. She is very attached to it, and I'm fine with extended nursing. I don't really want to wean her. I will if I can get a boy, but if I do and it doesn't work it will add a lot to my disappointment. I'm not sure what to do in that regard. I started using OPKs again this cycle in preparation. Hopefully they'll help.

Thanks for your advice! I certainly appreciate it! It's nice to hear from someone who had Shettles success.

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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 4:19pm

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Do you think its possible that your daughter was waiting up there for 4 days and therefore it didn't matter what else you did? Just a thought. But most likely you are just part of the 15% that did not have success. Your attempt sounds textbook.

Perhaps you will want to try some of the extra stuff that others on here talk about to help your chances. However, its like I said before, if it were me I would just do it again shettles style, your chances have to be even greater now that your 10% to 15% "failure" attempt is out of the way, paving the way for your little boy.

As far as the nursing goes, please do not think I was meaning you should wean her. Its not impossible to chart and do GD while nursing, it just means that you will have a harder time determining your CM. Plus it could affect how much help it will be for boy sperm, it may not be EW, so therefore hindering too. But I am also still BFing my boy and am in no hurry to wean so I know what you mean about not being ready to stop, although we are not TTC yet either. Just another factor to keep in mind.

It sounds like your BBT is very good and reliable. Plus you know how to use OPK so I think you should be fine not knowing exactly how reliable your CM is.

How is the quality of the CM you have, plentiful and helpful to TTC?

Now I'm back to thinking that some of the supplement and diet stuff on here might be a good idea for you, lol!


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Mon, 06-22-2009 - 4:34pm
Oops. I wanted to mention the Robitussum dose that Shettles does say can help. It should help make your CM more hospitable for boy sperm if you are still nursing. I would definitely do that for your attempt if it is okay to take while nursing. I know its fine to take while pregnant but I have never asked about nursing. Ask you doc and then do it if its okay.

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Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:13am

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I'm pretty sure she wasn't waiting up there because we used condoms for a few days before we started our 4-day abstinence, just to be sure. So unless DH has super long-lived sperm, or unless there was a condom failure, I don't think so. Good question though; I should have clarified that.

No, you didn't sound at all like you thought I should wean her. If I sounded defensive, it's probably just that it's on my mind these days and I keep going back and forth on what I think I should do. I'll probably keep nursing and rely on the OPKs to make up for the untrustworthiness of my CM right now. It is good quality at least. Creamy most days, regardless of where I am in my cycle. My BBT is usually very reliable, though this cycle it's screwing with me. I'm beginning to suspect I'm having an anovulatory cycle, because I'm on day 28 and haven't had a consistent rise yet. (CM has been weird still -- EW for a few days last week, a couple more days this week.) Normally AF would come today or tomorrow, but I don't know what's up. So we're being very careful right now. Don't want an "oops" right before it's time to try for our boy again!

Yeah, I agree it's time to check out the diet and supplements. I'm very willing to change my short-term habits for a long-term gain!

BTW, your two boys are absolutely adorable! They look like such good buddies, even so little!

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