Need advice quick!! (long and TMI)

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Need advice quick!! (long and TMI)
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 11:55am

I'm sorry I'm flooding this board with so many questions lately. It's just that now is the time, and I'm realizing there are still so many things I feel lost on.

The big thing you have to know and is that DH doesn't know what's going on. He's happy about TTC, and he wants to sway for a boy, but he doesn't want to know until after we're safely pregnant. He just gets super stressed about it, and after what we went through conceiving DD, I agree he's better off not knowing. So since May, we've agreed I'll try it when I want to and try not to let him know. Of course, that makes swaying SO much harder!

I thought I'd most likely ovulate on/around Saturday the 1st. To sway for a boy, we stopped DTD after Tuesday. It was NOT easy, especially since DH didn't know. Anyway, Saturday came and went, and I was still getting negative OPKs. Finally, Sunday night it was faintly positive. So we BDd last night (Monday). I was able to sneak in the baking soda finger, pre-seed and even got DH to drink caffeine. I Od and dictated position, so all that was fine. But after an hour he wanted to do it again! I tried to put him off by being creative, but it backfired and we ended up doing it again with regular lube. I just froze and couldn't come up with any reason not to that didn't sound suspicious. Then this morning my temp had only gone up 0.2, so I don't know if I actually ovulated. Maybe, maybe not.

Anyway, that's the background info and here's my question: if I'm not sure whether I ovulated, do we do it again tonight? Same drill with swaying? Or should I avoid it?

TIA!!

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Registered: 02-13-2007
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 12:04pm
In case it helps, here's the link to my charts:

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/28a4fe
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 2:51pm
I can understand how stressful this is!
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 5:09pm
Okay, at first I was thinking that with the OPK maybe tonight would be good, but after looking at your chart, it looks like you already O'd on Sunday or Monday depending on if it happened after the temp rise. Remember what Shettles says about OPK, that they are not always reliable, or miss the hormone rush until its stronger, like closer to O. Im thinking that with your temps, it looks pretty certain that its already passed. What was your CM like?

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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 5:55pm
Thanks for reading and for looking at my chart. My CM has been EW since last Thursday, and has turned watery today. My CM and temps are often jumpy and difficult to read ever since DD was born. I was a textbook example of everything before I got pregnant with her!
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 7:29pm
Well, then by all means do what you feel comfortable with. If you think that today is the day, then attempt it. My concern would be diminishing the sperm count with three attempts in two days, but say today is the day, maybe an extra dose of faster male swimmers would make it there anyway.
Sorry to not be much help, for me I only attempted once, when I thought ovulation was at that moment, and it was our first try with my oldest, but it took us 5 months of trying with our second guy. All of this to say, I think you have to do what you feel comfortable with. If you have been doing taking your alka seltzer and or baking soda, your ph may balance the timing anyway.

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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 10:56am

I would say try again tonight, I don't think it really can hurt.

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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:50pm

Well, we didn't do it. I was getting so crazy over not knowing if it would help or hinder us, and in the end I knew I could never be sure. So I figured I'd act like it was any other night, and if it happened - fine. DH had a rough day and wasn't in the mood, so it didn't happen. I know I'm going to second guess myself over that, and over the actual O day. I hate having such ambiguous signs now; that's why I was relying more heavily on the OPKs. But I feel like I've done what I can, and I'll hope for the best and be happy. :)

Now I'll settle in for that eternal 2WW, and then (if it works out) the even longer wait to find out the gender. Thanks for your support!

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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 4:19pm

I was just here to check on you. You have a good attitude!! I'm sure that DH not wanting to know can be frustrating. The 2WW for you will be hard for me too, I'll be thinking of you!

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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 1:25pm
I had a question about something you mentioned (sorry if this sounds gross or anything).. the baking soda finger? I've heard of baking soda douches for TTC a boy. So this.. I'm guessing you coated your finger with baking soda and inserted it before you and your DH got frisky? Or am I totally off on that? :)
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Fri, 08-14-2009 - 4:54pm
Yep, thats what she is doing. I do not know her exact reasoning, but the idea behind the finger vs the douche is that if you use the douches that is a lot of "product" to be putting up there if you do it more than once, which also is against medical advice. The finger gives use the same effect but less stuff and not as bad as multiple douching. Maybe Julia can give you a more info that she has, or even a link if she found it online.



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