New to all of this..

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Registered: 08-02-2008
New to all of this..
Sat, 06-13-2009 - 4:21pm

Hi all! :) Hubby and I are hoping to get pregnant soon. We would love to have our first be a boy. I'm really new to the whole charting, and temping, and all of that. No on in my family has ever done that, so they have no advice to offer. My mother in law "claims" that she had her son (my husband) and her daughter planned, but only having sex on the day of her ovulation for a boy, and having sex several days prior to ovulation for a girl.

But from what I've read, it seems like that just isn't enough. Anyone here not have success by doing only that? I am fully prepared to chart everything I need to, and do some diet adjusting for the sake of a boy.. the only problem is Hubby works out of town for 3 or 4 days at a time, so that might be a problem.

I can see that several have had success with the Shettles method. Any advice that you could offer would be a great help :)

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Registered: 02-13-2007
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 12:19pm

Hi! Congratulations on agreeing to TTC (with my DH, that's the hardest part!). I wanted a boy for my first one as well, and that didn't happen, as you can see from my siggy. I learned all the basics of charting from a book called "Taking Charge of your Fertility," and then the gender swaying from Dr. Shettles's book. The Shettles method has worked for a number of people on this board, but not for me. It's not 100% successful, of course. I'll still be trying it again when we TTC sometime this summer, but I'm adding in diet and a couple supplements. Your MIL's method is actually much the same as Shettles. As for your DH's time out of town, it might get in the way. Is he gone sporadically, or 3-4 days of each week? Is his schedule flexible if you can plan it in advance?

Good luck!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 06-26-2009 - 9:32am

Welcome to the board!

If you do decide to chart, here is some information for you:

How to take your Basal Body Temperature,,midwife_3ph6,00.html

Basal Body Temperature Basics,,midwife_3pvn,00.html