New here-have a question

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Registered: 08-12-2008
New here-have a question
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Thu, 12-10-2009 - 4:07pm

Hi! I was referred to this group and am a total newb when it comes to gender determination. Now that I have found the group tho, I intend to do alot more reading. However, I need an asnwer asap so forgive me for not searching around more first!

I am 41 and just had a baby in August. Because of my age, we are ttc again, hoping for a boy. I cannot really chart because the baby wakes up so much-sometimes like an hour before I am scheduled to wake, so I do not feel that charting temps would really be reliable.

I purchased an OV watch and started using it this month. I have also started Clomid this month. Today is my first "fertile day" according to the watch, meaning that Monday would be my OV day.

When would you recommend BD'ing in order to try for a boy? Monday? Sunday? Should I get an OPK or do I need to? Any other suggestions would be great.

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Registered: 08-12-2008
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 11:20am
Thanks so much for the great summary of information. It will defiantly help alot this month. I also ordered Dr. Shettles book so hopefully I will get that soon!
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Registered: 12-05-2009
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 10:39pm
Jina's an expert on this stuff!!! She's has some great info!!!!!!! Welcome to the board! I'm Ashley, the community leader for this board so if you have any questions just let me know!!!!!

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:42pm

Jina, just gave you great information!

Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 7:55pm

Hey Lesa, welcome to the board. I just went over this a couple days ago for another boardie so I am just going to cut and paste it here for you again. Please let me know if you have any specific questions that I do not cover...

I have two boys that I used the Shettles method, from the book "How to Choose the Sex of your Baby" to conceive. The other ladies did point you to in-gender to learn things about supplements and diet and such, and that is a great place to get that info. I know that for sure Julia on this board is using some of the diet/supplement stuff right now in her attempt, and hopefully she chimes in to give you first hand experience. For us, we did not do any of those things, we simply followed the instructions in Dr. Shettles book to a tee. I highly recommend that you buy the book or check it out from the local library, most of them have a copy. There is a new addition that goes into how to use OPK for sex selection, so the newest addition is the most helpful if you want to try and use OPK to determine ovulation.
For a boy, you want to DTD on O day exactly, not before or after. So for both of my boys, we did not DTD for 4 days prior to O, then on O day, we DTD, using the boy position and technique given by Dr. Shettles. Some of the basic points of Dr. Shettles boy attempt are as follows, but I still recommend you read the book too....
1. For a boy, abstain from sex (and any ejaculation for DH) for at least 4 days prior to O. That preserves a higher sperm count, which favors boy sperm.
2. DTD exactly when you O. You want to be as close as possible to the time the egg drops, because boy sperm are faster and will make it to the egg before girl sperm.
3. DTD "doggy style" as deep penetration means the sperm is deposited closest to the cervix, and again this favors the faster boy sperm.
4. Have DH drink caffeine about 45 minutes before the attempt. Caffeine speeds up the body, including sperm, so this gives the boy sperm an even faster start. You need about 45 minutes before it shows up in the sperm. Caffeine for mom is NOT recommended.
5. You need to have an orgasm, preferably right before DH, this changes the acidity of your vag, and makes it more hospitable to boy sperm.
If you would like to use OPK to help determine ovulation, for sex selection its recommended that you use them TWICE a day, not the way the box says. You want to test 2 times a day, once in the morning and once in the evening and try to test about 10 hours apart. You want to do this because if you only test once a day in the morning, your LH surge may show up at night, but you didn't test, so the surge you see the next morning is actually several hours old. Its hard to explain, but the Shettles book goes into full details on this and it makes perfect sense.
The best research says that ovulation occurs 30 hours after you first detect the surge, but it takes about 6 hours to show up in urine. So you need to test twice a day to get as accurate of a time that is possible. So, when you get your first positive on the OKP, you should plan to DTD about 24 hours from that point.
You should use OPK in addition to charting and and temping to get the most accurate info. Its recommended that you chart for at least three months so you know what works for you. During these months of charting, you should not be on BC pills and only use condoms. Practice and patience are key to ttc a certain gender.

You need to keep in mind that Clomid actually makes girl conceptions more likely. Research has shown that it changes a woman's pH level to make it much more hospitable to girl sperm. Its not impossible to conceive a boy and Dr. Shettles has found that his method can help curb this. YOu just have to be very diligent and make sure your timing is perfect. He also discovered that a certain supplement can help, potassium iodide. . I have no idea if its available over the counter or must be prescribed. But your doctor who prescribed the Clomid may be able to point you in the right direction. Plain Robitussin over the counter can also help, you take one teaspoon three times a day for no more than 4 days right before and on O day. All of this is from Dr. Shettles newest edition, on pages 198 and 179.




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