Is anyone else scared?

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Is anyone else scared?
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 4:11pm

So DH and I are currently about a month away from officially ttc #1. As much as I'm excited (and as prepared as I can be) I can't shake this nervousness I have. Not necessarily about becoming a mother... as I know this is something I really want to do.


I think i'm nervous about actually being pregnant, the weight gain, the morning sickness, the LABOR and DELIVERY, etc. Above and beyond that, i'm also concerned about money and love... will we have enough? I guess nobody ever has enough, but I desperately want to give my children the things and experiences that I was fortunate enough to receive as a child myself.


Does anyone else feel this way, or am I all out here alone?

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 6:32pm

I think it's totally natural to have thoughts and worries like that. I'd be more worried if you didn't! LOL I mean, I'm already getting nervous about being pregnant and labour, and eventually having to deal with a teenager or two - and I'm not TTC until fall of 2009! :D

Anyway, I think if you get into those thought patterns that it might be good to think about the positives as well - but don't feel bad for feeling the way you do.













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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 7:12pm
I'm scared too and I already have one. We're going to start TTCing in about 2 weeks and it is just a weird thought still. I really want to have more then one and have them fairly close together, but I keep thinking things like. How will I deal with a newborn and toddler? Will DS like having a sibling or will it upset him? Can we afford 2 right now? Etc etc. It is just scary thinking about creating another human being, even after you've already created one.











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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 7:50pm
I am nervous too!




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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 9:45pm

Hey..I know this is off topic but do you live in Fishers, IN??? If so, I live in Noblesville.

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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 9:54pm
You are totally not alone! I'm very nervous about pregnancy and all that comes with it. I think that's only normal. It's a huge life change so of course you're going to feel an array of emotions. The two biggest things I'm nervous about are weight gain and delivery, which I'm sure many other girls are too. It's the unknown that is scary. It sounds like you're prepared though
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 10:15pm

You are absolutely not alone or strange for having those feelings. I have had all of those worries as well - and like a PPer, I've also worried about raising a child at all different ages, up to the teenage years! I think we all have these kinds of worries at one time or another (esp the L&D worry - EEK!).

It's natural, IMO, to have some amount of worry at each life course transition. We're worried about the unknown... about upsetting the balance we've found and are content with... about not being ready for the next stage... it's all very normal I think. And this is a great place to talk about all those specific worries!!


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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 10:43pm

Gosh honey, hell ya!!!!!


The PPers summed up my feelings to a T.

 

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 8:12am
I'm scared and we're 2 years from TTC! In fact I was just talking to DF about going off the pill a little earlier than planned (July vs. Sept) and THAT'S freaking me out! The pill is like my safety blanket, but it makes me nuts. We are planning to use FAM for 2 years, but I can't help but think we'll have an oops. Even though I'm ready, he is not, and it IS scary! But just think once you are PG you will have so much to look forward to. I don't think the fears go away, but they get pushed aside by the excitement of meeting your little one. Don't worry, everything you're feeling is normal.

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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 8:48am
I worry about whether I'll be a good mother, whether I'll make the right decisions and instill good values in my child. Sometimes I see myself doing selfish things and wonder how I'll be once a baby is here.








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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 9:03am

It is absolutely normal to have fears like that. I was terrified the moment I got pregnant! But then once you start to get your bump and feel the baby kick and move you sort of forget about those fears for awhile. Then at about 6 months I really started to get nervous about delivery. I was thinking "This is going to come out of where?!". But by 9 months I was SO ready to get that baby out I didn't care what it was going to take :-) My son is now going to be 4 and I am still scared! LOL And I am scared about having #2 and not being able to balance my life to give both children the attention they need and deserve. AHHHH! Ok, I was relaxed at the beginning of this post............. :-)


Anyway, you are perfectly ok for having these worries. This is a major life changing event, but always remember that it is going to be SO SO worth every ache and pain you ever went through to have that little sweet pea in your life!

Stacy - Mommy to Carter James




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