Appointment Monday, should I go off the Pill?
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|Thu, 10-27-2011 - 4:57pm|
Hi ladies! :) Sorry I have been mostly lurking since the wedding. I'm an old married lady now. ;) I missed you guys, and hi to everyone new! :)
I have my annual appt with my gyno on Monday morning. I mentioned to S that I need to go because I'm almost finished my current bcp pack and have zero refills left. I need the checkup to get a new birth control prescription written. He said I should go off the pill completely. He doesn't like me being on the pill basically and since we are married now, he doesn't see an unplanned pregnancy as a big deal at all (I agree to an extent, but I'm still not 100% ready for parenthood).
I don't know what to do and I feel torn!
For us, sex was risky in the beginning because he doesn't like condoms and we mostly pull and prayed! Getting on the pill came soon after our relationship started. Without it we would likely still just pull and pray or I could learn to chart to avoid. Getting pregnant sooner than expected would not be terrible AT ALL but I think I would be disappointed at not getting to officially TTC (does that make sense? I want to take vitamins, exercise, research, plan, have a start date, etc.).
The Pill has definetly negatively affected my sex drive - as in I have NONE what so ever since I have been on it. We both would like me to get off it for that reason alone. The hormones really numb my feelings/level out my highs and lows and I really dislike that.
On the plus side though - my periods are extremely light on the pill and I rarely have any cramps! I dread getting my old period back, cramps and heavy bleeding, ugh!
If I was TTC I would want to be taking prenatals instead of a multi, maybe extra supplements, exercising, not drinking any alcohol or caffeine (oh coffee my love how I'll miss you), eating healthy, forcing DH to eat healthy and take vitamins too lol, etc. I'd also like an official pre-TTC checkup for both of us, and for both of us to go to the dentist pre-TTC too. I can't get all of that done before MONDAY!
Do you need to take a break between the pill and TTC? I've never read a clear answer on that?
Not paying for the pill anymore would be nice .., so that's a plus.
A baby now wouldn't be bad, but our finances are not ideal yet. I have several goals including emergency funds, paying off debts and I'd like a nest egg of money set aside just for the pregnancy/baby's first year too. I'd also love a new(er) car before a baby, a honeymoon (we haven't had one) and a solid year of couple time with my new hubby ...
But we're also 29 and 38? Aren't we "old?"
Ugh .. my thoughts are all over the place on this one. Any thoughts or advice for me? :)