Be careful what you wish for...

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Be careful what you wish for...
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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 8:46am

So I've been reading TCOYF (so far I enjoy it but may have to go back and re-read some ch's) and I brought it up to

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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 2:26pm

Christine,

Obviously it is up to you when you want to stop taking the pill, but I have to say that I love charting and wish I had found out about it in time to use it as a BC instead of as a fertility aid. I think within a couple months you would know your body well enough to be safe 75-90% of the time without using a condom anyway. Those first few months are the key, and you just need to ask yourself if you are stubborn enough to be safe because of all the other benefits you are gaining from being off of the pill.

Another point to take into consideration is that it is not as easy to get PG as you would have believed from Health class. There are obviously people who have oops, but then there's me and plenty of other people in the TTCing thread who have been trying pretty persistently TO get PG, and having unprotected sex all over the place, and plenty of us are still trying after four, six, eight months.

So even if you do slip up and miss a condom one day when you shouldn't, even if it happens to be in the few days when you are actually fertile, the odds of PGcy at that point are only 20%. So it depends on whether you are strong enough to use condoms for a few months until you get the hang of FAM, and/or how willing you are to have an oops if you do slip up.

I think all this chances of PGcy thing goes back to the issue with your coworker, too. Because really, you probably only have a maximum of three months off, and the odds of you both getting PG the first or even second month you try are pretty slim. I would say one of you would get PG on the first or second month, and the other one very well could not get PG until month 5 or 6 of trying. The point being, I think it is too early to worry about it. The longer I go through TTC, the more I realize it's really not up to us when we have a baby--we can only do our part. So I think you and your coworker should both just do what you want, and it will probably work out fine.

HTH, and good luck with charting, whenever you decide to start it!










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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 4:12pm

Adrienne,


Thanks so much for your advice! I feel a lot better now. Last night after DH and I had that talk I had butterflies in my stomach! I think I'm going to go for it because I'll be finishing my last pack this month and it would be a great way to start the new year (health-wise). I've been on the pill for 6 years so I'd like to start ridding my body of the hormones now.


It's funny because my last Rx allowed me to fill 3 mos. worth of BCP and when I went to my obgyn last month, the Rx she wrote me was only for 1 mo.

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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 9:17pm

Well, I would definitely join the charting thread down in the member to member section. That's where most of the boardies go when they start to chart--it helps a lot to look at other people's charts and to be able to ask questions and stuff.

But honestly, the first couple months are pure data collection. You might have super easy to interpret temp/CM/CP's, but even then, it takes a couple months to get to know your own personal body.

One thing I would suggest is to check CM and CP every day, multiple times a day. That really helps to give you a fuller picture of what is going on. A lot of people shy away from it when they first start charting, esp CP, because it is really hard to start to understand what is soft, or open, or whatever. But that is exactly why you should get in the habit of doing it daily because the more you do it, the more you will begin to understand.

One tip here is just to go with your gut. You aren't going to understand what different types of CM or different CP's are right away. So just record your best guess. Don't get hung up on whether you are right or wrong. Take a guess and record it. When there is a change, you will notice it, and record the change. At this point you can always go back and fix things if you think you need to. But in general, just try to feel comfortable with taking your best guess at what your CM and CP are, and recording them.

Also, don't worry too much about temping. I think the best way to temp is to set your alarm for the earliest time you would ever get up, and then take your temp every morning at this time, and then go promptly back to sleep. I have two alarms to facilitate this. If you aren't someone who can easily go back to sleep, just take it at the normal time your alarm would go off every day for work. Don't forget--don't move around too much, drink anything, or say or do anything until after you take your temp. Take it RIGHT after you wake up, at the same time every day. I don't think it seems to matter if you got up to pee or took a drink earlier in the night, as long as it is at least an hour before and you go back to sleep again after that. Any temps taken within an hour of your normal temping time should be pretty accurate--so if you happen to wake up a half hour early or late, just take your temp then, not a big deal. Also, don't worry about if you miss a day here or there. As long as you don't miss several days in a row, you should still be fine with understanding what is going on.

Try not to feel overwhelmed--realize that you don't have to understand everything right away. Like I said, the beginning of charting is just data collection. Don't try to understand it right away, just observe and record everything for future analysis.

But I think you'll like it, most people notice a huge (positive) change in their bodies when they come off of BC. Too funny about the doctor giving you only a one-month prescription too! It's funny how sometimes there are so many signs in front of us, and we just have to look around a little to find them. :-)










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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 11:59pm

Adrienne,


Thank you for taking the time to write all that out! I greatly appreciate it! Someone suggested I should just throw the pack out when I get to the last week because they're just placebo pills anyway, so that would mean this Sunday I would officially be done with BCP!


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