Feeling ready mentally vs. physically

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Feeling ready mentally vs. physically
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Mon, 07-25-2011 - 11:21am
Do you feel ready mentally to have a first or another baby? How about your SO?

Perhaps you are not feeling physically ready or both?

What is holding you back the most? What steps could you try to bring you closer to your goals?

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Mon, 07-25-2011 - 10:23pm

I'm ready. For me it is just timing. I want to have a baby at the beginning of summer so I won't miss much work.

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Tue, 07-26-2011 - 11:43am

Him- ready. Me - not. That's the short version. :)

I can't really put my finger on physical vs. mental. I know emotional plays into it too, as well as financial. Financial is the really big one. We are both far from ready financially. Need more income, less debt, more savings, better cars, etc.

Physically he is ready and beyond because he feels he's getting old and wants to start asap. Physically I think I do feel pretty ready. I'm in a good age range (29 now), I'm healthy, I take good care of myself. I can picture myself being pregnant and feel excited. I'm not as scared of labor as I used to be.

Mentally I still feel like a child sometimes. :) I worry about being ready for the huge long term responsibility of being a parent. It's so heavy and it scares me. I wish I knew how to overcome this. How to feel more "grown up?" I'd love any suggestions. I think getting married in September will help, and cutting myself financially off from my parents too. Mentally I just need to work on my perception of myself.


 


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Tue, 07-26-2011 - 12:19pm
I hope you feel great this time around, Dawn! It's nice you came to a compromise.

E: DH also feels more ready than me because of his age.

I don't feel ready physically, but I feel more ready than in past years. I still have a way to go and have to kick aside the down feeling I have had lately! Mentally, I am stressed because of money and other things. I wish we had a house to welcome our baby to. I am good I think with money so perhaps it will work out. The other problem I have is that in order to feel better physically, I need to spend more money on getting better. I am thinking yoga classes right now, I think it will help me both physically and mentally!

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Tue, 07-26-2011 - 2:44pm

Me and my husband both feel mentally ready!!! If it was up to him, we'd start ttc right now.......... The only thing holding me back is my weight and acid reflux issues (taking a over the counter Prilosec pill). I always said I wanted to be as healthy as possible before ttc, meaning being at a 'healthy' weight and taking no medications. Gyno said I was over thinking it and I could start any time I wanted to, but I always feel guilty to ttc because I keep thinking "What if me being overweight and taking a medication harmed the baby in some way that wouldn't have if I had been at a 'healthy' weight and on no medications". Maybe I am over thinking it and should trust in God that He will make everything right.

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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 1:04pm
Losing weight is not easy! I am tired of renting as well but we won't buy a house for a while most probably...Right now, we rent a very nice condo.

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Sun, 08-07-2011 - 12:56pm

I'm 100% mentally ready, but not physically.

~Em~

Mommy to Nate and expecting a little girl Nov. 2012