Lifestyle changes for your DH/partner

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Lifestyle changes for your DH/partner
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Thu, 01-15-2009 - 12:20pm

This is a bit of a question and a bit of a rant.


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Registered: 06-28-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 1:04pm

Hey Cassie.

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Registered: 09-29-2006
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 2:38pm

Hi Mary - It must be incredibly frustrating knowing that DH could very likely improve his health and get off the blood pressure medication if he made better food choices. (And also a little annoying that he can eat all those greasy meals without gaining weight!)


At my pre-concpetion appt, I asked my doc if DH needed to have a similar appt, and he said that DH could talk to his doc about a sperm test, just to be sure. I thought this was a good idea, but when DH went to his doc, his doc was very dismissive of the whole thing and DH didn't push it. So DH may go to my doc to get the referral for the test. I like the Fertell idea in theory but we really shouldn't have to pay for an over-the-counter test, when he could just get it done through the doctor.


The one good thing I can say about DH's attitude is that he's happy to start taking a mens multivit about 3 months in advance (when we return from our trip), and he normally doesn't like the idea of taking a multivit. He has also agreed not to sauna or ride a bike until we have conceived.

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 5:12pm

I have to say I never even thought of DH's health and TTC until I read this.


My DH is on high blood pressure medication and so is his entire family. They are not unhealthy or heavy by any means it is just genetic. My DH rides a bike and runs regularly. He also takes several vitamins daily. If I think about it he has been having coffee and a diet coke or two during the day. As far as drinking goes he will have a glass of wine if we are out with other people.


I might have to talk to him about the caffeine now. My biggest concern is his age :o(

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Registered: 06-28-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 6:45pm
Jen, I don't have much to add other than to say that you have a beautiful family.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 9:32pm
Thank you so much Mary. They mean the world to me and I'm so blessed to have them.

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 10:04pm

Cassie,


Like Mary said, my DH is making changes for his own health, not necessarily for TTC preparation. He is currently on meds for HBP and prostate inflamation and would like to get off both. His job and weight are the cause of the HBP and he is borderline not even needing the meds but his dr. gave him a very small dose. As for the prostate issues, it keeps recurring and they just put him on more antibiotics.


I've been asking him to get a sperm count done and he keeps saying he's going to but then he doesn't ask the dr. about it. I think he's afraid to find out something is wrong with his sperm

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Registered: 04-03-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 5:35am

Honestly while I totally understand your reasons behind wanting your husband to make these changes I can also understand why he isn't jumping at the chance to make them.

I am going to have Thomas take a multivitamin starting about a month beforehand but that is it. We both already lead quite healthy lifestyles and I am not planning on giving up alcohol or caffeine until I do in fact know I am pregnant or the two week wait. Now if in 6 months we aren't pregnant then maybe I will try to have us cut down on even more but at the same time people get pregnant all the time without making any of these changes. The most important thing for a babies initial health seems to be folic acid and I am taking that regularly.

Since the process could be long I would rather wait and see how things go and continue to live my life normally then cut back on things which make me happy. Going without alcohol and caffeine for X amount of months would make the TTC process much more stressful for me because it would mean not taking part in a large chunk of our social life and forgoing my favorite beverage- soda ;).

I am sure you two will be able to find a middle ground that you both feel comfortable with:)


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Registered: 12-01-2008
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 8:34am

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