Pros and Cons of TTC

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Pros and Cons of TTC
Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:00pm

Okay, so my DH responds well to things that are well planned fully thought through. I decided to write out pros and cons to TTC in June 2009. I found data that backs up some of my pros and tried to be as fair in the cons as I can. Can you all read through and give me ideas and let me know if I sound too one-sided?

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Fri, 01-09-2009 - 4:09pm

Jaime you have a great list and I might want to steal some of it for my list!

Ohhh the over 30 stuff is not something I want to read! LOL

You might want to add.. Going through this incredible experience as a couple and... all the fun new experiences you will have with a child

I could probably sit here and think of 20 more pros for you ;o)



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Registered: 03-18-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 9:06am

Jaimie, That's a great list, but I was thinking (unfortunately) that not all things are equal and your DH not being emotionally ready outweighs some of the great pros. Of course, if you go to the grad section, you'll find lots of us with DH's who were not ready until they got the BFP and then totally embraced it.

For your cons, I would focus on the bad effects of waiting past June. If your DH wants kids eventually, then listing the cons of waiting even longer could convince him to get started in June. So those cons would be the effects of getting older on fertility, being older when your kids and grandkids(!) are growing up (I don't think that's a con, but others do).

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Sat, 01-10-2009 - 12:03pm

Hey Jaimie,

I was going to suggest that you ask your DH to come up with his own list of pros and cons, and then you could compare lists. It might help him think about the things he is looking forward to as a parent, and could help him zero in on the things he really wants to accomplish before starting a family, and evaluate their importance.

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Mon, 01-12-2009 - 5:57am

I just have to say I smiled when I saw the "train horses" - not being able to work with my horses as much has been a huge factor in my decision of when to try. DH doesn't think its that big a deal but he also isn't really all for me riding when I'm pg (which my dr ok'd since its something that is part of my usual routine) so we've been over that one a few times.

BFP: April 4th 2010

Natural M/C: April 17th 2010 @ 6wks 5 days