Why not SAH?

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Registered: 07-15-2004
Why not SAH?
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Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:16pm

I have seen that there are quite a few of on the board who plan to stay at home once they have children, or currently do. For those of us who don't plan to SAH, why? Is it because you want to continue your career? Is it because finances won't allow you to? I'm just curious to know what your opinion/situation is?


Not trying to start a debate, I just interested in other woman's reasons and opinions for doing what you plan to do/are currently doing?

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 02-01-2004
In reply to: squeaker02
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:44pm
I guess to be really honest I really enjoy my work and love doing what I do.

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Registered: 04-17-2002
In reply to: squeaker02
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 10:59pm
I really don't think we would be able to go without me working, unless we wanted to wait ten or so more years. Plus, I go crazy if I don't go somewhere for more than a day or two. I need something to do!


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Registered: 02-06-2006
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 12:45am

I have a bunch of reasons....


One is that I dont have the guilty burden of believing that I *should* be home and that my child(ren) will somehow suffer if Im not.

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Registered: 01-17-2007
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 8:27am

I have a couple of reasons: First of all, we can't afford for me to SAH. DH is a graduate student and makes peanuts. We could pay our mortgage and maybe eat on his stipend, but we need to my wages

wttg
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Registered: 04-22-2006
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 8:37am

I'm actually on the fence on this one. Part of me would love to SAH, but I think I feel that way right now because I hate what I do at work on a day-to-day basis. I'm a PhD student in my last year and I'm pretty much just sick of it! LOL

Once we move, it depends how soon we get pregnant. If it's right away then I probably won't bother trying to find a job and SAH at least the 1st year. Then, we'll see how I feel after that. If we wait a while before TTC then I will try to get a job. If I love it, I'll go back, if not then I won't.

The great thing is DH will make enough to support us, so money isn't an issue. So, it'll be up to me to decide what I enjoy more. I have a feeling though that I'll miss doing work. I agree with what some of the others said about needing something to do for myself, and needing a structured environment to thrive in.

Once the kids are in school I would definitely start working again if I hadn't already done so.



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Registered: 03-18-2008
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 8:48am
I will continue to work for several reasons, similar to Jamie. The most important one is that I do get fulfillment from my career and need the intellectual stimulation. I also believe that part of being a good mom is being a good role model for my kids and I want my kids to grow up knowing that women can have successful careers as well as men. I also want my kids to grow up seeing the husband and wife as equal partners and that is easier to do when both parents have an equal hand in childrearing, household duties, and bringing home the money.


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Registered: 04-02-2006
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 9:44am

While we could very likely afford for me to SAH on DF's salary we both would like a little more luxury for ourselves and our children than that would allow.

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Registered: 12-03-2007
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 12:26pm
Well, I'm not going to SAh because DH is and I'm pretty sure two SAHP won't work out-lol.

Emily

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Registered: 07-15-2004
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 12:39pm

Being a SAHM might be an option for us if we were wanting to wait until 30+ to start out family. However, we do not want to wait that long. With DH just starting college and only working barely PT

 Cassie 

     

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Registered: 02-06-2006
In reply to: squeaker02
Wed, 12-03-2008 - 2:43pm

I dont feel guilty about it.

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