Update on our TTC plans
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|Fri, 08-31-2012 - 7:27pm|
Hi all - I haven't been here in awhile, but I've been posting here since 2007 or so and was CL for awhile! Short story is, DH and I have been married for almost 5 years, we got married young (age 21/23) and I've had baby fever ever since. DH wants kids but hasn't felt ready for a variety of reasons.
So, DH and I have started getting closer to an agreement on when to TTC. I've said a million times before that he's inching closer, but I'm starting to feel more confident about it. I started a new job recently that gives me more regular hours and is less stressful, and we've been spending evenings together and taking walks, etc. I'm also making more money and will be able to save up more easily. This has all helped DH feel more confident about having a baby.
And in addition to just time going by and both of us maturing, DH's older brother is about to get married (in 2 weeks) and he and future SIL are talking about TTC right away. So DH has said he's looking forward to that and getting some practice with babies, and even talked to his brother about helping out. I was even more pleasantly surprised when DH mentioned this to our friends!
I'm starting a grad school program next week, and it's probably going to take me 3 years or so, depending on how many classes I take at a time. DH suggested we have a baby as a graduation present. Nice thought, but I'd rather not wait that long - I told him really think next summer would be perfect for TTC, or anytime after my best friend's wedding, which is in April 2013. I also talked to my mom, who is a teacher, about caring for our future baby during her summer breaks, and she can't wait to do that. I told DH this and I mentioned that April would be a great time for having a baby, because I could take three months mat leave and then my mom could have the baby for July and Aug., stretching out the time before we had to get daycare. He said that made sense. So I can't say it's an official agreement, but sort of a tentative plan - this would put us TTCing next July, 2013, for hopefully an April 2014 baby (if we're lucky on timing, of course.)
Now I just need SIL to hurry up and get preggers to make DH jealous!