Age Expectation Vent
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|Tue, 07-01-2008 - 2:46pm|
Hi, I'm a newbie here, but I'm thrilled to have found this place!
First of all, my dh made a bit of a surprising statement the other night. He just casually mentioned that maybe we were ready to "forego the birth control." I admit I was pleasantly surprised that he was even thinking about this, but I was a bit freaked out as well. I think my reaction was relatively normal overall. (Lately, I've been feeling the ticking of my biological clock a bit more than I've been used to.)
We've been married for almost 8 years, and we've spent the majority of that time getting settled in our careers. (Admittedly, it's taken him quite a bit longer to find "the career" he loves, but nevertheless, he finally seems to be feeling settled and happy and a bit more confident about the future than he used to be.)
Anyway, it seems we might actually be ready to take this giant step in our lives, and it's exciting, thrilling, and very scary.
Yet, I keep hearing and reading that age is such a big problem when ttc. I'm 33 and dh is 32. We still feel that we're quite young and in many ways just starting to figure life out. It bugs me that it seems that everywhere we turn people view the early thirties as "old." (Perhaps "too old" to have children??) It's crazy.
Sometimes I feel that others around me think I've missed my "window of opportunity." I never really realized that taking time to truly establish a happy marriage was potentially closing my window of opportunity for children. People have actually started to assume that my dh and I are just not interested in having children.
I know I shouldn't care what others think, but I do care. I won't let them make our decisions for us, but...it just bugs me, ya know?
I know there's no "perfect" time, but aren't some times better than others to begin a family???
Thanks for letting me rant a bit. I really am excited to be at least "thinking about the possibilities," nevertheless!
Edited 7/1/2008 3:29 pm ET by jpcurlylocks1