All I can think about are babies!

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Registered: 07-14-2011
All I can think about are babies!
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 1:53pm

Hi everyone,

I've been reading the board for awhile and thought it was time to actually post something.

Expecting baby #1 August 8th 2012! It's a girl!
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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 3:26pm

I can't really say I've ever been in the same situation, but I really feel for you. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of emotions. Dealing with a loss must be so hard. Then knowing what your heart wants, and not being able to make it happen. My advice isn't worth much, but... The only thing I can suggest is to focus on the tasks at hand knowing that those accomplishments will get you one step closer to being able to have a baby. And do whatever you can to stop thinking that your clock is ticking away. You are still young and have time! Focus on the positive...You will be able to provide a good life for your family. The choices you are making now are setting you up for the long term.


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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 5:18pm
Hey there - I know how you feel in a great many ways. My DH is a lawyer (has been for ten years ) but we went through a sabbatical for two years. He is a career prosecutor and it really sucked the life out of him. During that two year period, we lived on savings, horse shows, and love. We had insurance - but zero maternity coverage. We also had an unplanned pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. It took me almost a year to stop feeling so horrible over it. We have two children, but I was absorbed in the "could have been" of that lost baby (14 weeker). We are planning to start TTC in January. DH has been employed for seven months now and we are moving to where he is working in ten days. It has been a long, long road - but we are finally getting there. I'm starting to get baby fever, but it's tempered by the fact that I have 15 pounds to lose, a house to sell, a move to make, and a horse to break!
I know the job hunt as a lawyer is tough right now. Look into prosecution (city/county) - the hours aren't nearly as tough as a private practice or corporate lawyer and the benefits are typically awesome. The court experience you will gain will be a massive boon in the future, also. With your husband going back to school, there is the potential of him being able to be with a baby some. Talk about it. As far as the wait is concerned, make a list of things you CAN'T do once you have children. Think about doing those things and enjoy them. You aren't old - I'm older than you are!!! My husband is going to be 45 this fall and we're still in this game. Come here and chat with us - we all know how it feels!!

Jules - Happily married and Momma to DS, DD and expecting our Caboose Baby 11/24/2012

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Mon, 08-01-2011 - 10:47pm
I know you are worried about age. I had my first at 34 and we plan to ttc #2 when I am 36. I turn 36 in sept. So you still have time. I hope all works out w your job issues.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 10:00am
Hi Anabelle! What a pretty name!

Welcome to the board! I am Victoria, 30, and DH is 42. We are WTT our first. After a country move, DH was unemployed for 3 months, then underemployed for 2.5 months. We took a risk that is finally paying off right now even though his salary is no where near what it used to be where we used to live.

The ladies here all had great advice! It sounds like you wish to be a SAHM and with DH in school, it won't be possible...I hope you find a great job soon that will at least reassure you financially until DH gets a job after his degree....You are still young and can wait a little longer! I am so sorry to hear about your loss...

Baby fever is hard to control, that's why it helps to talk about it here! I hope you stick around!