My husband and I have been married for 5 yrs.
Hi and welcome to the board!! I have a cat and I go through the same thoughts every day!! He is my baby and he's really attached to me, more so than anyone else, so I would hate for him to feel neglected, but you know what, my parents had a dog when they had young kids and we grew up with two cats, and we all took care of them, they were fine! I think I'll try to give enough attention to both our kids and our cat, it's definitely doable!!
As for the in-laws, your hubby will need to stand up for you if they get too overwhelming, as it's his family. I know sometimes there's not much to do about it as we can't control other people... I wish you the best with that! I know I will get too much unsolicited advice from too many people, so I'll try not to give out too many details about things...
BFP: April 4th 2010
Natural M/C: April 17th 2010 @ 6wks 5 days
I do understand where your coming from with your animals. My dogs are my babies, as you said, and right now they are not even a year old so they are still rambunctious 'puppies' and often require a lot of care and time. However, that being said, it is possible to balance your time with your pets and your children, I think. My parents did it and my aunts/uncles also did it. As we grew up, we learned to take care of the animals and we learned that they needed love, attention, and care too. It is unlikely that your animals will feel neglected, but instead excited that there is a new member of the family for them to love, protect, and have fun with (as the kids get older)! That's always how my mom described it to me, anyway.
It will be a learning process for you, but you shouldn't give up your desires of TTC because of your animals. As far as the in-laws go, you don't HAVE to have them in your child's life, but I would say to give them a fighting chance, sometimes things tend to change with a new member of the family around. If you still feel uncomfortable or mistreated, like I said, you're not REQUIRED to have them in your life, if you and your DH decide not to.