The dreaded wait

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Registered: 09-24-2007
The dreaded wait
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 5:30pm

Hi! I am Andrea and have a DD that will be 2 in August. Dh is finally on board with having another baby, but he's making me wait at least until October/November until we "ttc" for financial and other reasons. I have been ready for another for over a year, yet DH really wanted to stick with only 1 child. I am grateful he has changed his mind, but now I have to wait. I have already bought the next baby some things and can't wait to actually get pregnant again. I have several friends that are pregnant again and hate to see any more time pass before DD has a sibling. I do need to lose a few pounds, but have not really motivated myself enough to do it. DH is all about "having a life" right now and I really feel that he is in denial that having a family IS having a life. He is a wonderful father to DD, so I'm not worried. I tried to get him to start ttc asap, but alas, he won't budge. I can't trick him with stopping the pill because that would cause a massive fight. So I will try and exercise more and eat less in order to lose weight and enjoy my dd while I have just her. I also plan to eat a ton of sushi before I get pg, I love real sushi.

I plan to be on here a lot because I do'nt have many other ways to channel this energy and desire I have to have another baby asap. It's SO HARD TO WAIT! Thanks and can't wait to get to know some of you :)

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Registered: 01-08-2008
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 9:19pm

Hi Andrea-
It sounds like our DH's are similar. Mine would be happy with one but I told him that I want two and he also agreed to two before we got married. I don't think he realized how much work it would be when he said that.

Anyway we are paying off debt and it won't be pd off until October 2012 so my DH agreed to TTC next summer. I would have liked to TTC when our son turns 2 in December but have to wait until June 2012. . Of course it is kind of good as we don't want another winter baby so if I wasn't pregnant by January we would have to wait 4 months. the last few months or so I have gotten baby fever and same as you all my friends are having babies. This will be our last one so in a way I kind of want to get it over with that way I won't have to go through the baby stage anymore. I am not looking forward to sleepless nights again especially after it took forever for my son to sleep through the night. Maybe the second will be a lot easier.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 10:52am
I'm Ashley, 23, married to Jason, 22.... we have a 3.5 year old DS and a 16 month old DD... DH has been making me change the TTC date a bunch this year and I'm pretty sick of it lol... as of now we are going to be re-accessing our situation in November and HOPEFULLY he will finally go for #3!
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Registered: 10-27-2007
Mon, 07-11-2011 - 12:57pm

Hi Andrea,

We do sound fairly similar.


Mommy to Nate and expecting a little girl Nov. 2012

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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 1:27pm
Hi Andrea! Welcome to the board! :D

I am Victoria, 30, and DH, 42, and I are WTT our first! I too need to lose some weight and save more money. Some of my WTT goals have been accomplished while others have not.

I am looking forward to getting to know you!

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Wed, 07-13-2011 - 9:32pm


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Registered: 05-04-2009
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 4:38pm

Welcome to the board! I'm Jenn, and have a 20 month old daughter. DH and I are waiting to TTC until I lose a few more pounds, and probably will wait until I take the Feb 2012 bar exam. (I was supposed to take the bar in Feb 2009 but was too sick because of 1st trimester pregnancy symptoms, and have been too busy to start studying until now.) I hear you on frustrating DHs and having to get them on board with TTC. ;) Sometimes mine still says things like "if we have another baby" instead of "when." I also hear you on enjoying sushi now before being pregnant again! Taking time to enjoy the things I can't have/do while pregnant helps pass the time.


Mom to Ashley Elizabeth, born 11/3/09