Getting older and financial obligations

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Registered: 11-23-2009
Getting older and financial obligations
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Sat, 11-28-2009 - 8:48pm

I'm facing enormous student loan debt and had to quit my job to move to Virginia for my husband's job which now pays all the bills including rent, but I need to find a job to make student loan payments. I just graduated with my Masters Degree after getting booted from the program I was originally working toward and so I am going through a major career change. As it stands, when I do find a job, most if not all my paycheck will go toward student loan payment. My husband and I both plan to start trying in May or June.

I'm also 33, and am told that after age 33 your chances of having a child are significantly reduced. I am determined to start trying to have a child this summer or before I turn 35, regardless of if I have a job yet (though I would be surprised if I don't have a job by then) because I'm afraid if I keep waiting it will never happen. Any success having a child under limited financial means/any of you going through the same thing?

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Registered: 12-03-2005
Wed, 12-16-2009 - 1:09pm

The issue is really how you're willing to live. Student loans can be put on income sensitive repayment plans, so they're based on how much you make instead of an arbitrary amount. You can live in a smaller place, have one car, skip eating out, etc if you truly want a baby and want to SAH. You have a stable lifestyle and a husband who's making enough to cover the bills, so now it's a matter of choosing priorities.

And babies are cheap (barring medical issues, but then your SOL anyhow). I know that's not the conventional wisdom, but other than a new carseat and possibly a crib, you can buy almost anything you need off of craigslist or ebay for pennies on the dollar.

Just for reference, we had our first child almost 11 years ago making about 28K a year. It would have been easier to wait for our finances to improve, but then I think you run the risk of just upping your lifestyle to fit your finances and you never "have enough" to have a baby. You can make the rest of your life work around it if you really want to.




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Registered: 08-15-2005
Tue, 12-22-2009 - 6:18pm

Sewmuse,


I feel your concern is completely legitimate. I am in the exact same position with regards to having to pay back student loans. There is no guarantee that a degree gets you in to the field for which you studied so that you could ever have the opportunity to make the money you would need to live AND pay back a loan. I am 34 and am in a monogamoous relationship but am afraid to have children in this finanically stressful and uncertain times. I have hope that I can create my own financial freedom, but that takes time and planning and the bilogical clock is ticking. I do not want my children to come here and live anything less than a beautiful life.


So, I do not have an answer for you, but you are not alone. I spoke with the student loan people and they said there were certain fields in which you could work and pay back your loan with your work time as service. Then after ten or fifteen years, they would forgive the balance. Please call your loan guarantor to get more accurate information about that.


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Registered: 01-24-2009
Thu, 12-24-2009 - 4:44pm

Hi, I dont usually visit this board, but I saw this thread on the iVillage main P&P board page so I thought I would comment. My DH is graduating this May with a TON of student loans (think 6 figures). When he does graduate, I will have to work fulltime (Im a nurse) and he'll be working, but our plan is to knock out those loans within 3-4 years so that means basically ALL of our extra income is going towards the loans. Our goal is for me to be a SAHM so for that to happen I'll have to work for a few years.


Our DD just turned 1 and let me tell you, children are only as expensive as you want them to be. If you breastfeed for that first year, cloth diaper (or start couponing and buying on sale), buy secondhand clothes/toys, etc..... Children are really very cheap. Of course, if you will need daycare, that will be a major expense but that would be depending on where you live. Daycare here is about $120 a week, but in other places it is upwards of $300 a week.


I would say GO FOR IT. You will never regret having your baby, you will always find a way to pay for your loans, I promise!


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Registered: 11-24-2009
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 9:18am

Since the age and fertility thing can be a permanent problem and the financial one presumably will improve, if it was me I would probably go ahead and start my family anyway.


We had very limited means at first; many do of course. I guess the question is how happy can you be with

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Registered: 08-11-2008
Mon, 12-28-2009 - 2:23am
Hi, just another drive by....
mcpayton
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Registered: 12-29-2009
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 3:57pm
You need to prioritize. If you can't afford your debts, then you're living beyond your means. Working so you can send your child to daycare is not the solution, either. Therefore, scale down. Buy a cheaper car, rent a cheaper place, eat out less often, buy less expensive clothes. You'll find it will work out in the end and you'll also not be attached to the things you own and instead become attached to your family.

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