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|Thu, 05-20-2010 - 10:43am|
Hi, I have been lurking for awhile now and finally decided to introduce myself. I am 27 and my husband and I are WTT for #1. We are planning on TTC in the fall. I am so eager to talk with people about my plans and emotions, but of course have only shared with my closest friends. We have been married a couple years, recently bought a house, both with relatively stable jobs and income. I am very content with my life right now, but just can't get rid of the baby itch. I feel like my husband and I are both waiting, waiting to start a family, just trying to pass time.
I have hinted about my desire to have a family to my mom, and she has in no uncertain terms told me that she thinks I would be better off to wait a few years longer and spend my energy on establishing and furthering myself in my career and just having fun and enjoying the freedom with my husband before getting "tied down". My parents were married several years before having children and didn't start until their 30's, so they feel I am rushing things.
Many of my peers have small children and when I speak about children they always tell me to enjoy my life right now and that there is no hurry. I know biologically there is no hurry at my age, but I have baby fever so badly I just can't wait. I find myself checking on the days, counting down until the fall. I have scheduled a lot of activities and goals for this summer to keep me occupied and having fun while waiting.
Our biggest reason for waiting at this point- I am just concerned about combining career and baby and how it is all going to work out. I am relatively new out of school and just starting to establish myself in my field. I know women do it all the time, and though difficult, the rewards are worth it. Having a family has always been a priority of mine, so if work has to take a back seat for awhile- well, I guess that is fine. I have not had a lot of positive input and understanding from people around us (just not understanding our desire, I guess), but I figured many of you may understand.
Thanks for reading my lengthy post!