How to deal with WTTC

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How to deal with WTTC
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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 11:14am

Hey guys,

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:46pm

Although waiting is so hard, try to look at it as a time for the two of you to do things together, and grow as a couple before you have kids.

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Mon, 02-06-2012 - 2:59pm
I actually adopted a cat two years ago to help, and although she did help at first, its not so much anymore. And yes I do have some hobbies but the idea still sneaks in and kind of ruins the hobby, because then all I think about it babies. I took up knitting and started making booties, then I took up baking and started making birthday cakes, and then I took up reading and regardless of the genre a baby always seems to pop up.. its like I'm doomed
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 1:15am
There alot you can. Adopt a pet. In my house there 3 furbabies. I also doing some studying as well to distract myself.
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:30pm
Hi Annabelle! Welcome to the board!

WTT is hard! I don't have much to add but this board definitely helps with the wait!

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 3:21pm

Hi annabelle,

do you and SO have anything you want to do together besides buy a house?? Maybe plan a vacation or go on a cruise of some kind?

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 10:28pm

Well we are getting married in October and are going on a cruise afterwards for a week, so obviously I don't wanna have a big belly for that (lol).

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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 8:50am

Hello!
Just a little background on me. I'm currently 36 years old. I have a 2 year old son, David. My DH and I got married when I was 26 almost 27. I did not get pregnant until we were married almost 7 years. Part of that was financial (and we are still struggling ) and the other was we moved twice and we didnt' want to move with a child. Plus, we both wanted my DH to be at least 30 before we had kids. I see you're quite young. I know it's hard to wait but a few years isn't going to kill you.

My advice to those who are just married and don't have kids yet is enjoy being married. Enjoy doing those things you won't be able to do after you have a child. The days I can go out on my own without having to take my son with me and not worry about him having a meltdown, I really treasure those days. Don't get me wrong, I love my son. But once you become a mom your life totally changes. So, go out with friends, go out to eat, go on vacation. Do all those things that will be hard to do once you have a baby. You can still go out to eat but it's totally different. Right now it's nearly impossible to go out with him to eat as he wants to leave as soon as he's done. When they are small it's a lot easier.

We bought our house when I was 8 months pregnant. I really wish I would have been able to help more. I couldn't move boxes, I couldn't paint the room.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Wed, 02-08-2012 - 12:38pm
Let me just say that it took me a few minutes to think about what to write as a response to this. Like I said, I know I'm young. and I know it won't "kill me" to wait a while. However, I am ready to make that commitment. I am ready for the sleepless nights, and constant attention that they would need. Yes, it is a new expense to have a child, but everything doesn't need to be top of the line, or even brand new. There are multiple things that are being handed down to me from family and friends that I won't have to worry about.

And yes, although it might be nice to take a little time off from a child and go get a pedicure or something of that nature, I would still be thinking of my child the entire time I'm away from them.

And the reason that I want them when I do is because I have already suffered a miscarriage in the past due to a fail in my birth control, and I don't want to risk having problems with conceiving because I decided to wait until my fertility was taking a nosedive. I want both of my kids BEFORE I turn 30, and if I by chance want #3, I would do it at latest at 32.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it was very rude to say it wouldn't "kill me" to wait. Yes, I can wait, but I am choosing not to. Please keep in mind that not everyone wants to wait as long as you did, and it's unfair to patronize us.
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Thu, 02-09-2012 - 8:22am

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 7:58pm

That's the thing... Just keep focused on the big future plans.

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