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|Sun, 03-29-2009 - 4:18pm|
I have been lurking here for a couple weeks now and finally decided to jump in. I have been married a little over a year now and have been with DH about 4.5 years now. And I'm finishing up law school this semester, then I'll be taking the bar exam.
When DH and I were dating we agreed we didn't want to start trying for children until I was around 30 (I'm 25 now). After we got engaged we decided we wanted our first to be born somewhere around me being 30, so we'd start trying when I was about 29. And now after being married a year or so (and especially with me going through serious waves of baby-fever!), we've been thinking we'll start TTC sometime next year - when I'm 26 or 27. So it keeps getting pushed up and up.
I have these extremes that I go through with wanting kids though. Sometimes it is so hard to not start trying immediately. I have to tell myself studying for the bar and starting a new job will be infinitely harder while pregnant, so really I should wait. And DH and I want to have our first home purchased before a baby arrives, too. But still, even given these ideas, I still want to try right now! I just went through this phase though and thankfully have sufficiently talked myself out of it for another few months. Now, I'm back to thinking waiting until I'm 27/28 is a good idea. Hopefully we'll have our first home by then, it'll give us some more time to ourselves as a couple maybe to travel or just be carefree, and maybe we'll be better set financially speaking, too. All those are good ideas.
I've found though that the baby fever periods are coming closer and closer together and are getting harder and harder to talk myself out of. So I guess we'll see how long we can go! DH says the only thing he cares about is having a home to bring baby home to, and we may be getting that within the year. But still, I have to wait for that. So I'm glad I found this board to vent my frustrations until I get the green light - haha!
Sorry for the big post!! I look forward to getting to know all of you!