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Sun, 03-29-2009 - 4:18pm

Hi everyone!

I have been lurking here for a couple weeks now and finally decided to jump in. I have been married a little over a year now and have been with DH about 4.5 years now. And I'm finishing up law school this semester, then I'll be taking the bar exam.

When DH and I were dating we agreed we didn't want to start trying for children until I was around 30 (I'm 25 now). After we got engaged we decided we wanted our first to be born somewhere around me being 30, so we'd start trying when I was about 29. And now after being married a year or so (and especially with me going through serious waves of baby-fever!), we've been thinking we'll start TTC sometime next year - when I'm 26 or 27. So it keeps getting pushed up and up.

I have these extremes that I go through with wanting kids though. Sometimes it is so hard to not start trying immediately. I have to tell myself studying for the bar and starting a new job will be infinitely harder while pregnant, so really I should wait. And DH and I want to have our first home purchased before a baby arrives, too. But still, even given these ideas, I still want to try right now! I just went through this phase though and thankfully have sufficiently talked myself out of it for another few months. Now, I'm back to thinking waiting until I'm 27/28 is a good idea. Hopefully we'll have our first home by then, it'll give us some more time to ourselves as a couple maybe to travel or just be carefree, and maybe we'll be better set financially speaking, too. All those are good ideas.

I've found though that the baby fever periods are coming closer and closer together and are getting harder and harder to talk myself out of. So I guess we'll see how long we can go! DH says the only thing he cares about is having a home to bring baby home to, and we may be getting that within the year. But still, I have to wait for that. So I'm glad I found this board to vent my frustrations until I get the green light - haha!

Sorry for the big post!! I look forward to getting to know all of you!

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Registered: 04-03-2008
In reply to: swedeisme
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 5:40pm

Hi Gretal!!

I am glad you decided to stop lurking and start posting:D I'm Ashley 23 and my hubby and I are waiting until this October to start trying. I had to wait for about a year before we could even agree on a date so I definitely understand going through the phases of feeling calm and totally OK with the wait and feeling crazy and wanting to start right now- no matter what is standing in the way.

We have people here who are waiting for many lengths some already trying, some waiting until 2011 or later, etc so you will definitely feel at home:)


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In reply to: swedeisme
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 7:37pm

Hi Gretal,

It's good to see you here... I know you from another board... maybe Living Together.

Anyhow... I'm Kate, engaged to Damion, and WTT till summer 2010 (after we get married ;-) )

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In reply to: swedeisme
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:14pm

Welcome to the board!

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Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:35pm

Haha, yeah, we're having trouble deciding upon a date. Well, that's not actually true. We're really good at deciding on when we'll start. Then a few months or a year goes by and somehow the date seems too far away so we move it closer! I guess we just have to make a list of things we want to accomplish before TTC and then go from there. I really would like to be moved into a home - but if we're going to close on a house, I bet we could start TTC and then start work on the home. If there isn't too much to be done, we could probably have it finished by the time baby comes along =)

I'm going to make a list of things - crossing them off might make it more manageable to wait! I'm anxious but I fully understand the need to wait right now. There are certain things I want my child to have from the get-go, so I really am okay with waiting to accomplish them before starting.

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Registered: 07-14-2005
In reply to: swedeisme
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:42pm

Hi Kate - thanks for the welcome! Yeah, I'm all over iVillage! I have so many boards I like =)

So how have you been doing knowing you have more than a year to wait before TTC?

Even though I have been waiting for a while, I've never had baby fever until the past 6-9 months or so, so it hasn't really been waiting - haha! But now that DH and I wanting one more, we have to really think about all the reasons we shouldn't just start immediately! (And there are plenty!)

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Registered: 07-14-2005
In reply to: swedeisme
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 9:44pm

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HAHA! So you see my dilemma? :)

Hopefully, we can get one soon - I graduate from school in May and join the workforce in August and then the househunt begins full force, so hopefully we won't be waiting TOO LONG for the TTC or I'll go nuts! HAHA!

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