Husband says no, I say maybe

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Husband says no, I say maybe
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 1:36pm

Hello everyone.



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Registered: 04-17-2009
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 1:41pm
Hi Becky! Welcome to the board! I'm Victoria, 29, and DH and I are WTT our first!

I'm sorry to hear your DH is done having kids. Perhaps you could sit down and explan why you want your son to have a sibling. Besides, siblings play together, giving their parents a rest from time to time! Best of luck!

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Registered: 01-08-2008
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 8:52pm
I have been down this rou ad. My dh kept asking are you sure and I said yes. It took awhile but he knows I wan another and we agreed on 2 when we got married. I finally cinvinced him and we are going to try tentatiively late spring early summer 2012. Also I will be 36 in sept so I undetstand. Maybe let it go for awhile and try talking in a few mos. I have been there not only for #2 but for our son I wantred to try sooner and he was mot ready. Also what are his reasons? Good luck.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 9:55am

Hi Becky! Sorry to hear your DH isn't on board with you trying for #2. I would suggest sitting down and having a heart-to-heart with him about your reasons for wanting another child and his reasons for NOT wanting another one. It's so important to communicate and for each person to understand where the other is coming from. If you know the things holding your DH back you can maybe provide a counter argument that will get him thinking in the other direction. Let him know the specifics of WHY you want a second child and how you think you will manage it. Discuss the potential challenges and rewards with him so that he knows you've really thought it through and it's not just a passing whim.

Good luck! I hope he comes around! :)

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Sat, 03-05-2011 - 10:30pm

Hi Becky! Nice to see another cupcake momma over here!

I agree with all the PP's and say give it time. I would bring it up again in a month or two and ask him for specific reasons.

I would be devastated if my DH suddenly decided he didn't want more kids because it's something I've wanted all my life and something we agreed on a long, long time ago. I grew up as an only child and am still having issues with it (not that all onlies do, just my personal experience) and I definitely don't want Selin to be an only child. Everyone has their own reasons though and you have to do what works best for you and DH.

GL and KUP! (((HUGS)))

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Registered: 12-02-2003
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 9:06am
My DH didn't want a second but I threw an all out fit and threatened to leave, not my best moment but I was going baby crazy at that moment... so he caved and now we have our beautiful 1 year old DD whom DH adores and is very thankful that I pushed so hard.
Now we're WTT for #3, DH is content with 2 but said yes to 3 as I really want another, no all out fit this time though thankfully lol, but if I want a 4th (which I don't think I will), I may have to pull out the GRRR again haha.