I'm new :-)

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Registered: 03-19-2011
I'm new :-)
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 9:24pm

Hi everyone, I'm not new to ivillage but I'm new to this board!

Hubby and I have been married for a year. TBH, I've had baby fever for longer than I've been willing to admit. However, I know with 100% certainty that we are not ready. Financially...we're good to go (we both have great jobs, we own a beautiful home, health insurance and savings are in place, etc.)

Emotionally....we need some work. Hubby in particular is so NOT ready. This is where I'm struggling. I respect and understand his side of things completely, but that doesn't mean its easy to accept! We are both 25 and, in his opinion, we are just too young. We still have a couple of vacations that we'd like to take and "splurges" that we'd like to make around the house. Hubby is great with babies and loves them to death but he just isn't yet ready for the late nights and the committment of raising a little one.

Part of my desire, I think, is very much driven by the fact that my BFF just had a baby...so for the last 6 months, I've been inundanted with cute baby blue things, and holding her beautiful baby boy who hasn't cried ONCE in front of me! Almost *too* good to be true. I've been telling people, I wish he would just start throwing fits so at least I get a reality check!

In all honesty, if I had a positive pregnancy test today, I would

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 2:35pm
Hi foodie! Welcome to the board!

I'm Victoria and DH and I are WTT our first! It sounds like you have a stable life, which is so important when it comes to starting a family! There are a few ladies on the board who share the same frustration that their SOs don't have baby fever yet. It can definitely be a challenge to WTT, which is why this board helps so much! I hope you stick around so we can get to know you!

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Registered: 04-29-2006
Sun, 05-22-2011 - 4:46pm
Hi! I'm Becki, I'm also 25 and my DH is 27. I've had baby fever since before we were married (3.5 years ago) so I know exactly how you feel. My DH has baby fever once in awhile when he sees something really adorable, but he's not emotionally ready yet, and he knows it. We also bought a house, and we have jobs, although we don't make enough to afford daycare in our state at this point.

I'd also be ready in a few months if he say "ok, now" - but I am in limbo, and have been for a few years now. I don't know when he'll be ready. Maybe next year; I was hoping it would be last year or this year, but he still isn't ready, and sometimes I wonder whether he's getting any closer or not.

Welcome to the board!!