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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 7:48pm
Hello Ladies,
My name is Wendy. My husband and I have been discussing having a baby and we have decided that we will start TTC in June of this year!! I am so excited because for many years my husband was totally against having a baby and I convinced myself that I was ok with that, even though deep down inside I knew I wanted one more child. My husband has a 15 year old daughter from a previous relationship and I have a 13 year old son. My husband has raised my son for the past 12 years and he is the only father my son has known. I had my son when I was only 18 and I know it is going to be VERY different this time around, because I am much older and have so much life experience. We do not want to tell anyone that we will be TTC because I know it will put on too much pressure. Any one else have children with such a big age gap? Do you have a sibling that is much younger or older than you? Any advice?
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 12:21am
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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 1:26am

Welcome, Wendy! Good luck when you start trying in June! This is definitely a great place to pass the time!


I am Brianne- 28. DH-31 and I have a 4 year old little boy and a 3 year old little girl. We are waiting until September 2010 to TTC number 3. So there will be at least 7 years between #1 and #3 and at least 6 years between #2 and #3.


My parents have 4 kids and we are spaced 16 years from the oldest to the youngest. My oldest brother is 38, my oldest sister is 30, I am 28 and my little brother is 22. We are all still close now and were close growing up too despite the age differences.


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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 7:06am

Hi Wendy!

I am WTT my first child so I don't have any experience with age gaps between siblings especially since I am an only child. You must be so excited for June to come! I'm Ashley 23 and my husband Thomas is 27, I am hoping that we will start TTC around our first wedding anniversary in December but it is still open. Definitely fall/winter of this coming year though.

I hope you have fun posting here:)


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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 11:08am

Hi Wendy,


I'm Jen (36) and I have experience with this.


I was also young when I had my DDs. They are now 14 & 15. Our little surprise baby is 14 months and it is TOTALLY different this time around. I'm much more relaxed and have enjoyed every single stage, moment, and experience with this one. Not that I didn't the first time around, I was just so young and immature back then. I was still a kid myself and not settled.

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Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:21pm

Hello and welcome to the board! You must be so excited -- June isn't that far away! I can't give you much advice, since I don't have any kids of my own yet. But I do want to say that having a baby with much older siblings can be a really wonderful experience. The older kids are able to help, and they have a really special bond with their baby sibling. The little girl I nanny for is 15 months old, and her older (half) sister is 17. The older sister absolutely adores the baby and the feeling is mutual. My only piece of advice is not to rely TOO heavily on your older children. I had a couple of friends in high school who had infant/toddler siblings, and they really resented being expected to babysit extensively (for free) or getting up with the baby in the night, etc. There is nothing wrong with expecting them to help out from time to time -- it's part of being a family -- but the bulk of the responsibility shouldn't fall on their shoulders. Given the fact you are planning and looking forward to this new baby, I can't imagine that will be a problem. But that's the only advice I can think of at this point.

For now, congrats and welcome!



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